I HATE being pregnant.

[Emma861]

Hi all,

Think I just need a rant.

I am seriously becoming depressed, the furthur along i get the worse its becoming.

I am in so much pain constantly. I am currently 26 weeks pregnant and each day just brings more pain.

My back hurts so much, all day and all night. I have tried so many things to alleviate pain all to no avail.

I have pelvic girdle pain, this causes me to throw up at least once a day.

The heart burn and insomnia is awful.

Im becoming more and more desperate every day, baby was very much wanted and planned and i cant wait to meet him or her but my god, i feel like ive been prepelled out of normal functioning life.

I dont feel like im even human, I struggle to even move to the kitchen. How the hell am I going to get through the next 14 weeks?!

My first pregnancy was amazing, I even avoided morning sickness. This one, ive gone from horrific all day sickness,to constant pain.

I would have liked to have another baby one day, but I dont think i could put my body through this again.

I work full time, but quite honestly its become a much needed destraction. I honestly feel as though my body was not up to supporting both myself and a baby this time.

Has anybody felt like this before? How did you cope?

I have lost all sense of my normal life.

Second pregnancy for me, so much harder than the first. Feel like all I do is moan 😢

Hugs, hopefully third trimester will go fast x

Me! Sorry to hear you're feeling this way too.

My first pregnancy was just like this. I had very low iron, very low blood pressure and struggled daily. I was baffled when the first trimester was over and things just seemed to get worse. Nausea the entire pregnancy, pelvic girdle, back ache, sciatica. I couldn't sleep because I was peeing CONSTANTLY and was checked for a UTI several times but all came back clear. Blood pressure fluctuations meant I was fainting constantly, light headed and dizzy all the time. I'm a childminder and worked alone at the time, full time. It was horrendously difficult and I started to hate my job because I just wasn't well enough to do it.

Some positives-
The relief I felt not being pregnant anymore was immense. I had no baby blues, and absolutely loved parenthood. Recovering from a birth (even with two 2nd degree tears, major breastfeeding problems, daughter in neonatal) felt like a piece of cake compared to being in my third trimester, and I loved every minute of the newborn days. I went back to work after 2 weeks and loved my job again instantly.

I'm pregnant now with baby no.2 (pregnancy no.4). I feel SO much better this pregnancy. I'm only 18 weeks at the moment but some days I feel like I'm not even pregnant. At 18 weeks last time I was wondering if a termination would be all that bad.

I had a relatively easy birth. Sometimes I believed that it wasn't possible for my body to be doing such a crap job at pregnancy, and it obviously meant I wasn't meant to have children. I had terrible anxiety during that pregnancy and believed that I probably wouldn't come home with a baby at the end of it. My body did birth very well, and my daughter is perfect after a few weeks in neonatal due to prematurity.

My only other advice would be to try not to wish it away too quick. So hard to do, I know, but I carried horrendous guilt when my waters went at 34 weeks. I had wished for the pregnancy to be over so many times and when it happened, I felt awful that I might have caused my daughter to be premature. In the scheme of things 40 weeks is such a short section of your life.

I really hope things get better for you. 14 weeks is nothing. Xx

I'm with you - 34 weeks and counting down the days. My first pregnancy was bad, this one feels worse - I'm just so uncomfortable all the time, my toddler is suffering from it because I can't chase around or sit on the floor to play games. I'm totally miserable and frequently in tears for no reason, whilst at the same time feeling guilty because I know how lucky I am to be having another healthy baby with no miscarriage or fertility dramas.

No advice (and people offering it mostly makes me want to punch them in the face) but we'll get through it, even though it sucks. And at the end there'll be a baby, and that'll be nice!

I'm 30 + 4 and miserable. Hip pain, back ache, heartburn that keeps me awake most of the night and I've just caught a fucking cold that makes everything feel worse.

If I do get to fall asleep, then the inevitable need to have a pee every 48 seconds just ruins everything.

It was a real journey to get to this pregnancy, and I hate feeling like I want it to be over but I'm not sure how much more I can take.

I relate to this. Im 36 weeks and have felt like ive done nothing but complain about sickness that lasted up to 7 months, pelvic girdle pain and back pain and severe pitting oedema EVERYWHERE. Im also plus size and 179cm so finding maternity clothes that genuinely fit has been a nightmare. Ive had severe mental health issues in the past including an eating disorder (from which i was almost fully recovered) and was advised to stop all medications when pregnant so ive been pretty damn insufferable this whole time. First baby, totally planned and my DH has been so supportive, i could not fault him but I just feel pregnancy is not something ive enjoyed at all and im beyond ready to meet baby. You arent alone, and you are certainly not a bad person for feeling this way despite "knowing what you were getting yourself in to". Reach out for help with your MW is my advice i guess and keep your mind busy so you dont dwell on the hard stuff. Good luck

I have just read each of the replies, thank you so much!!

It made me feel so much better. Awful for everybody else but also makes me feel like i may actually get back to me and this is not just something ive turned into and stuck as.

I have every sympathy with you all. My goodness, actually looking forward to the birth (pain and all).

Can massively relate to feeling guilty aswel, i feel like me wishing the pregnancy away is tempting fate and that makes me feel awful. I also feel like i neglect first child, I taught her how to make super noodles because i couldnt move to cook (big gap)!!! I hate processed food lol.

But hey, I take my hat off to every woman suffering and holding their shit together.

I have a new found respect for women!!!

X

@Emma861 I totally relate to you. I'm 26+3 and hate my pregnancy. Severe hyperemesis since week 5 and spent so much time in hospital and on so much medication and now PGP has started up my hips and back are killing me and I just want it to be over. My baby is wanted so badly but pregnancy is just doing me in. I cant sleep at night so constantly tired all the time and no energy what so ever. I just want my little one in my arms and to start feeling better.
I feel like I moan too much but I envy anyone who enjoys pregnancy. I wish I did!

Can I join?

29 + 4 and cannot wait to get the baby out 🙈 PGP, insomnia, back pain, crying all the bloody time. Hated this time of year seeing everyone getting glammed up and having drinks etc when I can barely walk.

People have started to ask about if I’m worried about giving birth (thanks for reminding me) but I actually can’t wait because it will mean I will no longer be pregnant and get rid of these bloody hormones at some point!!

That said I do love feeling her kick and move around inside of me but that’s my only joy right now!

You should take off work now for maternity! And just relax until baby comes.. I've been the same this is my first child and I swore blind itl be my only one.. I've just felt like shit.. just always feel dizzy

Oh god I really feel for you! I hated every second of my first pregnancy and fantasised about termination on a daily basis. The nausea, the backache, the heartburn, pelvic pain, headaches, anaemia, it's enough to drive anyone batshit. Somehow I got through it and like PPs have said it makes labour and the newborn stage seem like a walk in the park after the slow torture of a difficult pregnancy. I also had no baby blues and for the first month or so was positively euphoric about no longer being pregnant.

You will absolutely get back to yourself and you just have to keep telling yourself it's only temporary.

I’ll add my hand to absolutely hating pregnancy! I hated my first one & I hate this one even more! If it wasn’t for being an only child myself & wishing I had a sibling, I’d have stopped at one. Just over two years after my first, the memories had faded & I foolishly thought I’d cope better this time. Oh how wrong I was. I’ve had even worse Hyperemesis, been in hospital several times & even under control on a plateau of meds, I feel sick 24/7. I hate food & Christmas has been completely rubbish (bar seeing my little girls face opening her prezzies, that made my day 😊). I’m also struggling with rib flare.. I’m lucky I don’t much get hip pain but my ribs, dear me! They feel like they are being torn apart I’ve had it both pregnancies, it’s agony!

My toddler over the last couple months has seriously hit the terrible two’s & I’m finding I just don’t want to parent, I don’t enjoy it. It’s so hard & exhausting. Yet I feel incredibly guilty for one, thinking that and two, knowing it’s only 12 more weeks of just us. I wish I didn’t feel so poorly & grumpy & could enjoy this time with her

So yeh, I flipping hate it. 12 weeks to go.. doesn’t seem too horrific at this point but I so wish time would hurry up!

You will feel normal again OP! Within 20 minutes of the birth! Any sickness just goes, heartburn stops, you can breathe again.. you feel fantastic!

Ps. Ask your doc for some omeprazole for heartburn, totally safe in pregnancy & stops it’s dead. It’s a wonder drug & obviously free. Saves a lot of money as no longer need gaviscon!

As much as I'm sorry you're all suffering, it's a kind of relief to know I'm not the only one to hate being pregnant.

I'm 38 weeks and doing everything I can to naturally induce labour.

I have a fourteen year old daughter but I really had forgotten how much I hated being pregnant. I love being a mum.

I desperately wish that I was one of those women who felt wonderful and enjoyed the experience, but the truth is that I feel as though my body has been invaded by an alien.

It has been a complicated pregnancy to say the least, and it's taken its toll physically and mentally. I'm in agony all the time and I haven't slept for more than an hour at a time for weeks. I cry several times a day and fantasise about it being over.

I feel socially isolated and alone, and being unable to perform the simplest of tasks due to being so massive and in pain is crushing me. I really bloody want a massive stiff drink.

I know that I'm nearing the end now but every hour seems to last a day. The worst thing is, baby has a problem with his bowel and I can't seem to shake the feeling that I'm doing all this for nothing and that I'm going to lose our little boy, perhaps as a punishment for hating pregnancy so much and in the early days wishing that I wasn't pregnant.