Just reassure me that I’m not!

[KateK00]

I split with DP in October after our DD passed away, we now have basically no contact and haven’t had sex since beginning of August. We also have a young DS who I’ve been breastfeeding so periods aren’t happening right now. Last few weeks I’ve felt sick, uncomfortable and just generally horrible, and since Christmas Eve I’ve noticed bloating that could almost be a bump. I’ve bought a test but can’t quite face doing it yet! Please reassure me this is just Christmas bloat and I’m being a stupid cow while I try and psych myself up to do a test! 🙈

Just do the test

I'm sorry about your DD It may be just be bloating but the only way to know for sure is to do the test. You'll only be wondering and worrying if you put it off

That looks like a pregnancy bump to me.
And very sorry about your dd

Please just be brave and POAS. We can all be here to handhold, and whatever it is you can deal with it.

If you are not pregnant, you still need to visit GP to get your "bump" diagnosed x

"If you are not pregnant, you still need to visit GP to get your "bump" diagnosed"

This is very important op. Book GP now.

Then by the time your appt comes it'll either be to announce pregnancy or get excess bloating investigated, not trying to scare monger you but it's really better to be safe than sorry as sometimes it can be serious.

Thank you all. Test was positive. Fuck fuck fuck! My dates are putting me at about 20 weeks. I don’t know what the hell to do now.

Call gp first thing Monday. You need to make sure you and bump are ok.

Sending love & a hand hold OP.. first thing is the basic practicalities. Contact your doctor to ask how to get in touch with a midwife as you need to get a scan & check all is OK with both of you. Once that’s in progress, you can start to process everything else. I’m so so sorry to hear about your daughter 😢 I can’t even begin to image how tough life must be with grief, a young little one & a separation. I’d suggest some professional support may be appropriate but obviously that’s up to you.

I really hope things work out for the best for you & your family 🧡

I’m so sorry about your daughter. Must be really hard to deal with it all.

I would just reiterate what others have said and get yourself checked ASAP. I think I’d be tempted to call the ante natal ward of your local hospital tomorrow for advice.

I would go to the early pregnancy unit as soon as you can and explain your situation. I'm sure they'll scan you.

So sorry about your DD. Call a friend/your mum/ex DP - whoever can support you at the moment

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. This must be a terrible shock for you.

In your area can you self refer to the hospital? If so I would call the referral number first thing Monday money and they can whip you in for a scan.

Do you have a trusted friend or family member you could confide in whilst you get your head around it?

Wow! That must be a huge shock for you.
Is this good news? I am also unexpectedly pregnant following the loss of my dd earlier this year. I have been very well looked after given my history and the consultant couldn’t be more reassuring. I am under the same hospital where my dd was treated/ died and they have had me in for lots of extra scans. Would it be an option to contact whichever doctor/ midwife etc looked after you and your dd?

Take each day at a time whilst you come to terms with this unexpected news!