Family guessing the sex of the baby is annoying me!

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It’s mainly my in-laws (who we don’t see that often due to distance) keep trying to guess baby’s sex because this pregnancy is different to the first one. It’s bugging me but I don’t know why!

I’m due the 20 week scan on the 31st so we will find out then (didn’t find out for DC1) I’m feeling really anxious about it as I had a miscarriage before this pregnancy so the baby’s sex talk is annoying me

I understand what you say.

For me it always bothered me that anyone will try to guess either of my 4 baby's. I'm on number 4 now.

I have no advice on what to say or do but maybe just try to avoid places and people that might make you uncomfortable.

Tell them to place a bet winner buys the cot

I’m the same. I keep getting told “oh it’s definitely a boy” because of my symptoms (I’m only 12 weeks) and my in-laws keep referring to the baby as he/ him. I don’t know why it’s getting to me so much but I can’t help thinking “just bugger off and let me have this one thing to myself” I don’t mind what it is as long as it’s healthy, but I don’t like being told either, just because she’s basing it on her pregnancies ... maybe it’s my hormones 🤣

It is only a bit of harmless fun.

Just ignore them if you can OP. Do they want a particular sex? That would annoy me if so, more than random guessing for "fun".

I didn't find out the sex with either DC and it drove some of my family mad (how could I possibly be prepared for baby 2 if I didn't know the sex?! Would a DD wear BOYS gasp clothes?!). I just ignored them and carried on.

Just ignore them. I had them all convinced I was having a girl because of my "symptoms" when in actual fact I'm due in 4 weeks with a boy!
They've all been guessing the name too and pestering to find out so much to the point that I now laugh and say no then walk away. My OH snapped on christmas day saying it isn't his name, stop guessing we won't tell you until he is born.
Don't let it stress you out as it isn't good for you or baby!

Ignore them if you can, and minimise the number of events and places you visit where they are likely to be present. Difficult over Christmas I know, but it is nearly over now.

They probably just mean it as a bit of harmless fun, but for someone who is still recovering (mentally) from a previous miscarriage it will be hard to stick and is insensitive.

In my own pregnancy following miscarriage I didn't want to discuss the baby much at all because I thought that if I allowed myself to believe too much in her (my DD1, now 24 years old) I was sure to lose her. It was how I protected myself and managed my anxiety levels throughout the pregnancy.

Good luck. You cope in whatever way feels best for you, either by associating less with these people or by pointedly shutting down conversations you are uncomfortable with.

Try not to let it bother you, at least they are interested in your pregnancy! There’s often posters on here complaining that their families aren’t taking any interest and don’t seem to care.