Pregnant after 3 miscarriages

[TwinkleStars15]

How do you manage the anxiety? I’m really struggling. I had a miscarriage last year at 10/11 weeks, after a positive 8 week scan, and then two more recently and 4 and 5 weeks. I’m constantly in a state of worry and going to the toilet is like torture, waiting to see the worst. I know nothing can change the outcome, and worrying won’t help etc etc, but jeez this is hard

My 4th pg after 3 mcs is now a healthy 18yo. It can work out. Just take each day as it comes.

I've had 3 miscarriages and 3 healthy pregnancy and unfortunately I don't think the anxiety ever really goes away or becomes manageable. I was checking my knickers for blood right up until I gave birth each time.

You just have to take each day as it comes and remind yourself nothing bad happened today and then deal with tomorrow tomorrow.

Also try to remember things like bleeding etc doesn't always mean the end. I had bleeding throughout 2 of my healthy pregnancy (it was terrifying and shit) but baby was ok

Hello

I know the feeling I've had lots of miscarriages and I am currently 5 weeks. I wish I could just close my eyes and wake up and be 30 weeks with a health baby 😩 every single minute of the day I'm worrying, checking toilet paper after I go for a wee, it's torture. I've downloaded some books onto my kindle and I'm just trying to relax as much as possible including early nights and soaks in a warm bath with some bubbles.

I've got everything crossed for you, keep us updated xx

Sorry to hear that @ec1993 It’s so hard isn’t it Nothing will change the outcome, it’s just a waiting game. Are you going to have an early scan? Good luck

@ec1993 just seen on your other thread that you also have a 6 week scan booked and will be on Clexane - snap! I’ve already started my Clexane and have an early scan in 10 days x

@TwinkleStars15 I really want to start clexane but they won't until I've had a scan to confirm pregnancy in the correct place. It just feels like I'm a ticking time bomb. I've got a private scan next Saturday at 6 weeks then seeing the consultant on Monday at the early pregnancy unit. Wishing you lots of luck too, fingers crossed these are our sticky beans

@ec1993 I know what you mean about the ticking time bomb feeling, I’m desperate for them to prescribe me Progesterone after my 3 miscarriages but got to wait for my scan at EPU - same day you are being seen so let me know how you get on They are going to scan me then so haven’t booked a private one yet, going to do that at 8/9 weeks I think, try and separate them out a bit.

Congrats OP! Are you under the recurrent miscarriage clinic at the moment? I had three losses back to back - as soon as I found out I was expecting again I was prescribed a few things for the issues my blood tests had picked up (Clexane as you’ve mentioned - which sucks, but you quickly get used to it; prednisolone and levothyroxine- my issues were thyroid related) immediately. They also started me on aspirin but only a little later. I also had my viability scans via the consultant, the earliest at 6+5 to give us the strongest hope of seeing a heartbeat.

The anxiety from week 4 to that scan was unbelievable - taking all the medication helped somewhat for me to feel I was at least doing something but I was scared every single day. At the scan the sonographer knew our history so didn’t angle the screen near me as I was so afraid. But there was not one but two heartbeats there - and I am now 32 weeks pregnant with twins.

My advice would be - try and stay busy especially in those early weeks; have something, anything to take your mind off it every day. Stay away from Google. Don’t let anyone think you’re crazy for doing what you need to do - I immediately stopped going to the gym as I was scared I’d ‘shake baby loose’ - madness, but it helped me!! We also kept the news just to DH and I for a while so that I didn’t have to deal with family members asking how we were etc.

Very good luck - modern medicine is amazing these days and it can happen, I’m sat here with my two babies doing somersaults in my belly as we speak!!

@TwinkleStars15 I need to go next Saturday, I can't wait any longer I think I'll go insane 🥴 I am on progesterone, had it in two previous pregnancies too. I will definitely let you know how I get on, please keep us up to date too! This whole thing is so nerve wracking, I feel like every day is just dragging xx

@MrsEG thank you for your message, and congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m used to the Clexane now, it’s a pain but worth it. I’m only in one a day whereas my previous pregnancy was twice a day.

I have also asked DH that we don’t tell anyone (my mum knows only) which he has agreed to. He really wanted to tell him parents over Xmas but I can’t deal with their upset/sympathy if it doesn’t work out (they mean well, they are lovely, but it would be too much). They are also elderly and I wouldn’t want to risk upsetting them. So I’d like to wait until at least 9-10 weeks, preferably 12 weeks if I can get him to agree.

Thanks for the tips, I think I also need to stay off this forum as all I’ve done since I found it is look at pregnancy threads! Good luck with everything

@ec1993 how are today? It’s dragging so slowly, another 9 days until scan day and it can’t come quick enough. Do you have any period type pains? I do and it’s worrying me so much, I’ve had it pretty consistently for 2 days now - not sharp pain, just dull ache/pain and I’m trying to think of it positively but it’s hard. I’m also trying to hold off on doing my last CB digi - in my last miscarriage it never progressed from 1-2 weeks. I got 1-2 on Christmas Day when I was 3+6 and I’m now 4+2 so going to wait another few days I think?

Hey @TwinkleStars15 I'm okay thank you although been waking up every morning at 4am for some bizarre reason. I had those on Christmas Day and I read that if they are no worse than period pain and you have no bleeding then it's probably things stretching and moving about. I used a hot water bottle and had a warm bath like I would do with period pain and it eased off. I'm not doing another digi as they make me panic, I had 1-2 at 10DPO then 2-3 a week later and then a few days after that it went back to 1-2 and I freaked out however did one yesterday and back to 2-3 so I'm leaving it there as they just upset me. My scan is a week today and I agree, feels like the days are just dragging 😩 xx

@ec1993 same with the insomnia - I’ve been awake between 1am and 4am every night for the last 3 nights, it’s awful. I wasn’t sure if it was the anxiety or the pregnancy hormones, probably a bit of both. Sorry to hear about the stress caused by the digi, I totally understand why you’d worry! I’ll do mine on Wednesday, a week after the first one, and then stop. Good luck with your scan