Should I tell friends early?

[London91]

Hey,

I'm 4+3 so very early days. I have had 3 miscarriages, so definitely have good reason to keep quiet until I know everything is okay. I have a night out planned with the girls which has been arranged for weeks. I'm trying to think of plausible excuses for not drinking and so far I can't think of anything they won't suss out. Being on antibiotics, headache, are all things they probably won't buy. Has anyone got a good excuse that will get them to leave off or should I just tell a couple of friends, even though it's early days.

Help!

I would as long as if anything goes wrong, you would be prepared to tell them. If not then definitely the antibiotics excuse

I think it's absolutely fine to tell them, especially if something were to go wrong you will want their support. I know some people like to keep it quiet but I think everyone is different.
Congrats!

Could you offer to drive?

It’s up to you but if you are close why not

Personally I didn’t tell anyone but that’s just me

Another way of getting around the alcohol thing is to say you are hungover, pretend you are drinking g and t with a soda and lime, or simply just keep a semi full glass on your person - I did all of these whilst out with clients and it works

If they are good friends I would just tell them. If you lose baby you will need support. That is what I decided and it was the right thing. As long as they are not gossipy and would tell everyone before you are ready.

@OceanSunFish I don't have a car atm so that idea would be no good.

@Meshy12 they are simply nor the friends that would accept being hung over for an excuse not to drink lol and we tend to buy rounds of drinks, so it would be difficult to secretly order a non alcoholic drink.

Thanks ladies, I will probably just tell them and swear them to keep quiet.

Like others have said, I would ask yourself if anything went wrong would you appreciate their support?
We’re only 7+4 and I have told three of my closest friend who I know if anything went wrong I speak to them.
Do what is right for you and good luck with this pregnancy.

Do they know you're trying? I'd possibly just say as you're trying you're not drinking as after previous miscarriages you're not willing to risk it if you might be pregnant this month. Alternatively if they're the friends you'd tell if you had a miscarriage, just tell them

Cancel the night out stating you have the norovirus, stay inside so you dont get caught. Congratulations too

They are my too closest friends and I think any excuse to them is going to look flimsy. They know I'm trying and they know about the miscarriages. One of them is coming from really far to catch up over the Christmas period. So I think I'll just tell them both. There are others going but aren't close to them, so I'll just tell my closest friends. It was actually my DP who said I should just be honest because I'll never get them off my back otherwise.