Last full day with DS before induction....feeling sad

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Pretty much what the title says....I'm going in for my induction on Sat and feel like now I have a date it's hit me that there'll be no more just me and DS time which is making me feel sad, anxious, worried...every emotion under the sun! Baby was planned although at the beginning I did go through the same emotions and panicked about how it would affect our relationship as we're so close but got through it and focussed on the positives, I just think now it's getting closer I just can't imagine it not just being us and how he's going to take to a new arrival! I'm sure all will be fine eventually think I just need some reassurance and any words of wisdom from people with second children...DS is 4. Thanks x

In the same boat! My DS is 4 and is home with his gran and I'm about to go in for a section in the next hour to have DS2. Just FaceTimed him and it just felt so surreal! It will be fine I know and I'm excited to see their brotherly bond develop over the years 💗

@pinkstar01 aww huge good luck with your CS and you're so right....what he'll gain from having a sibling will be lovely, just having a panic and I'm emotional at the best of times so now I'm just ridiculous 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️xx

Good luck for the induction. I’ve just had my second child a week ago and I won’t lie it’s been the hardest thing to deal with (your post basically!) so brace yourself mentally. I really miss just me and DC1, and I feel like I’ve been neglecting her (I haven’t) but I know this feeling will pass and the long term gains of their relationship will be amazing. Hang in there xx

Oh bless you. My experience was that it was such a worry but turned out to be a nothing! Obviously there are 1st borns that have jealousy problems which makes every thing tough and ramps up your guilt, but everyone I know has been fine and I was too. The new baby was just another thing to love together and bond over. That's not to say it wasn't bloody hard work to make it happen that way, it was, but it wasn't rocket science either.

Things that helped: referring to the baby as 'our' baby so there was a sense of being in it together. Getting a doll that the older child can do all the same things to, so feed together, bathe your babies together, nappy changes etc. Bigging up things the older child can do - "e.g. I'm so glad you're and not a little baby, it means we can sit and read a book together and share this cookie" "what a good big brother you are, so gentle, look how much she loves you, you stopped her crying" etc.

Aw @Gettingonabitnow sorry to hear it's been so hard and yeah I really am trying to mentally prepare myself as I know what I'm like and will have major Mum guilt! Hope things get easier for you and huge congratulations on your new arrival!
@SleepWarrior so lovely to hear that it wasn't as bad as you thought it would be. We've involved DS the whole way and has always been 'our baby' He talks about how he's going to help and what he'll do to stop him from crying and even says he'll share his toys which all fills me with joy but I know it's a whole different thing now to when a new baby actually arrives into his life! I just hope we've prepared him enough (and me) and that I'm worrying about nothing! It's just the end of one chapter and start of a new one I guess x

You will still get time with you and your son just in between you will have a baby to feed etc. My son was 5 when I had my youngest and tbh he didn't really bat an eyelid. Kids don't really care that much when they are still young. You will be absolutely fine and I'm sure your son will take to the baby very easily. I'm due no3 in 4/5 weeks my eldest who's now 9 can't wait for the baby to come and my youngest who's 3 is so excited to be a big brother and to help mummy look after the baby. I joke with him saying are you going to change smelly nappies he always laughs and says no! But I will play with him :)..
One thing I will say which I've seen done before don't make a massive deal over the baby being here. What I mean by that is done over compensate with your son just be normal with him etc. I've seen others go over the top with dc1 and it makes them worse if that makes sence x