Here we go again

[ahenderson270]

I'm so sorry for how shitty a thread this is for Xmas day but literally no one else knows I'm pregnant yet as I didn't want to cause a drama over Christmas and I have no where else to go for support.

Some of you may have seen in my first post that I have an autoimmune disease that causes my immune system to recognise foetal dna as antibodies. It has caused me to lose 10 babies, the most recent of which at 16 weeks in May this year.

I'd decided no more babies (I had been trying through sperm donation from my children's father as I'm single) and had a coil fitted as I wanted to have satisfying but casual encounters.

Well one of these has resulted in a pregnancy that I discovered last week, I'm 20w3d today and since last night all movements have stopped. Ive been feeling them strongly for over a week, it was the movements that made me suspect I was pregnant.

Baby was making my stomach move visibly on the outside in the evenings.

I've noticed a massive reduction in movement since 8pm last night and at this point I haven't felt him move for 6 hours. I've also started getting stabbing pains in my cervix and period like cramps in my pelvis .

I've been through this enough to know what's happened but I'm a single parent with 3 children at home alone with them, none of my family know and anyone who could help had drinks at Xmas dinner and can't drive or care for my boys as one has ADHD and the other epilepsy.

I'm in for a sad, lonely night and I really would appreciate any support any of you have to offer .. I'm so scared and heartbroken.. I had just began to be excited about this

😭 awe hun. Bless your heart. Massive hug for you xx

Surely these are growing pains in your uterus and the baby is small enough to be hiding. How do you know your dates when you found out last week?did you have a scan?

@Delbelleber yes, I had a positive pregnancy test and I haven't had sex for 16+ weeks so booked a private scan.

I desperately want to believe I'm wrong and that baby is just facing inwards and I'm just stretching out .. but I've lost 10 babies over 10 years .. it's a feeling you can recognise .. though I'd give anything to be wrong x

@Halloweenbabyy

Thanks lovely 💗

I was feeling similar yesterday with cramps all day. I went to sleep and woke up feeling better. I'm going to the midwife clinic on Friday because it was scary.
Get yourself checked out and remember that what you are going through sounds pretty normal for growing pains. I take it you are not bleeding?

@Delbelleber no thank goodness, I think I'm going to head to bed and try to rest, whatever it is, being up worried all night won't make any difference x

See if you can ge to an emergency care center tomorrow. I don’t know if they are always able to scan on the day (I imagine at your gestation they most likely would though) but if not they should be able to use a Doppler at the very least to hear the babies heartbeat, and then they can take it from there. Sending hugs, good luck .xx

I had the same last week at 18 weeks

Went to my GP who found heartbeat which was strong and reassured me

Keeping everything crossed for you OP

@Catlover10 thanks for your support, if I've. Had no movement by morning I'll ring the labour ward .. just trying to be positive x

I felt my baby move consistently from about 19 weeks - very predictable and DH could feel it too. Then at about 22 weeks nothing for a day. Convinced myself it was over but then it started up again in a slightly different place so I think baby had just been bobbing about moving position and I couldn't feel it. Touch wood all is fine now just coming up to 24 weeks. I've got everything crossed for you that it is something similar

No problem let us know how it goes. Looks like there are some positive stories on here that are similar to yours. I am only 15 weeks so haven’t felt any movement yet but I’m sure once I do, it will be a constant worry every day for me as well.

How are you feeling this morning OP? Have you felt any movements?

@ahenderson270 you've been through so much. I hope you're able able to see someone today. With your history, I'm sure they'll ask you to come in so they can do a scan.

Sorry for the late response it's been a bit of cross over between lazy day and bonkers madness over here - baby has indeed been moving, he woke me up about 2am river dancing on my bladder and again this morning I'm sure he's been summersaulting.

I'm still going to get things checked out as I've been having other symptoms of my autoimmune disease, I get Crohn's disease like symptoms and fatigued with aching joints and that's been increasing all week too. I was just putting it down to the stress of Christmas but I'm not so sure now, my condition results in small, undersized and under developed babies and he was looking perfect las week but this has me on edge now x

Pleased he’s awake! Look after yourself xx