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Regret my termination

7 replies

2kps · 23/12/2019 23:29

Hi. No bashing please.
I had an abortion on Friday I was just gone 8 weeks. We have two children already and this one wasnt planned. My oh didnt want the baby at all. He’s never wanted anymore. I was in shock and didn’t know what to do. He talked me into getting and abortion and to keep the peace I went along with it. Anyway it’s been 3 days and I haven’t stopped crying. I regret it so much. I feel so guilty. I always wanted another baby , especially a girl since we have 2 boys. I feel like this would have been my girl as I felt completely different To my boys. I just dont know want to do. Have anyone else completely regretted it? I regretted it as soon as I took the second lot of pills. To be completely honest I feel devastated. I really wish I’d said no. I don’t know what I’m aiming to get from posting this, I just need to get it out somewhere. I wish I could turn back time.

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OhioOhioOhio · 23/12/2019 23:39

I'm so sorry you feel like this. I don't know what else to say but try not to punish yourself.

kimadey · 23/12/2019 23:43

Hi. I'm so sorry you are going through this torment.
I also had a termination earlier this year and regretted it. I am now pregnant again.
My partner did want a baby, I terminated as I have a pre existing medical condition and got scared. I just want you to know that I understand what you are going through.
Even though I am pregnant again, I still wonder about the baby I never had. Try and talk to someone who can help you through this. Have you told any of your friends?

Mumoft22m · 24/12/2019 19:48

Iv not told anyone. I’m too ashamed to. I’d love to get pregnant again but I know my partner wouldn’t be up for that. It makes me so sad.

CochonDinde · 24/12/2019 19:52

Sorry you're going through this OP. Please give it some time - I had one and was devastated for about a months afterwards, then utter relief set in after my hormones settled down. I don't regret it now. Look after yourself and please try not to beat yourself up over it Flowers

CmdrCressidaDuck · 24/12/2019 19:54

Be gentle with yourself and try not to read too much into what you feel just now. Your hormones are totally out of whack right now and it has a huge effect on your emotions.

Try to take it one day at a time and see how things are in a few weeks.

onalongsabbatical · 24/12/2019 19:58

You poor love. I really hope you feel better soon. Flowers

kimadey · 24/12/2019 20:12

Sorry to hear that. Can you talk to him and explain how you feel? Is there anyone you can confide in? Having someone to talk to really helps x

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