Miscarriage

[mummyb201303]

Today at 1.30pm I had a miscarriage. I've been to hospital to have a internal exam and bloods taken. I was 9/10weeks. I have to go back when I can get an internal scan.

I've told my partner. But atm I just feel numb and want to cry.

Do I tell our 6yr old daughter?

Any advice how to deal with this would be gratefully received x

I wouldn't tell your daughter. I had one when my son was 6. It was hard but i wouldn't want to upset him by placing that burden in him. It's hard for them to understand. Did she know you were pregnant?

I'm sorry for your loss I've had 3 at 11, 12 and 6 weeks. It never gets any easier. Try and be kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you wang / need to

No she didn't know I was pregnant.

I just feel so numb atm. And feel like somehow it is my fault.

Still in quite a bit of pain but the fact I dnt want to go back to hospital is keeping me from saying anything. Which I know is probably silly

Sorry for your loss but no if she didn't know about you being pregnant in the first place then you don't need to tell her anything. It wouldn't be nice for a child to hear or even to understand x

Really sorry OP
Take as much time to grieve as you need to and every emotion, sadness, hurt, anger, frustration, confusion etc is normal. I would say talk to your dp as much as you can.
I wouldn't tell your dd either, it'll likely bring up a whole bunch of questions that will be really hard for you to answer right now.

We always take on the guilt and place blame on ourselves. It's so natural as we strive to find sense of it all and pin a reason behind it.

It's not your fault. There will be a reason but mostly we'll never know.

Allow all your emotions. Things will get easier to deal with in time, every day is a step closer. Xxx