Not ready to tell people

[ahenderson270]

So as some of you may have read in my previous post I've recently discovered I'm pregnant (20 weeks today) in some rather bizarre and unsettling circumstances.

I'm working through it all in my head and I'm no where near ready to tell anyone.

However this has 'appeared' over the last few days .. how the heck do I keep this from exposing the secret over Christmas till I'm ready to tell everyone ???

Just wear baggy clothes, big jumpers, etc....

Sorry you feel this way hun. It will take you time to check your head around everything. I agree baggy jumpers or good old jumper dress.
I have just found out i am pregnant tonight and i also am keeping it a secret as long as i can. I feel more relaxed the less people who know.
Good luck love x

I remember your first post when you found out. Congrats!

I am nearly 12 weeks pregnant from a casual relationship. I have a 7 year old and like you, haven't told family yet. I am starting to show, have had horrendous morning sickness which has been noticed and will obviously not be drinking over Christmas. Which is going to be interesting seeing as we're spending Christmas with family!

You said something in your previous post which stuck with me about one decision altering everyones lives permanently. I've paraphrased but that describes exactly how I feel. I'd booked loads of holidays for DD and I over the next year and now I'm going to be pregnant for all of them. My flat is too small so at some point, we'll have to move etc etc.

Clothing - luckily big, oversized jumpers are in right now so you'll be able to pick something up that will hide your bump in pretty much any shop.

Your only option is baggy clothes to be honest! Baggy hoodies, T-shirt’s .. even then, I personally tend to spot bumps! They are such a specific shape! But I wouldn’t dream of saying anything if I didn’t know for def!

The other thing to say is possibly that you are having a few tummy issues that are being investigated & causing you pain & bloating? And then make sure you don’t stuff your face 😂 you can def get away with claiming a food baby around Christmas I recon!

I didn't tell until 21 weeks. But that's quite a big bump you have there!

I’ve just seen tour other post and wow, what a story. You sound fantastic OP, I’m sure that whatever the outcome that baby will be very lucky to have you.

Echo what the others say, but also that long drapey scarves are good too

Maybe also get in some sparkling non-alcoholic wine (Sainsbury’s do a good one) that you can drink when everyone else is on the champers

Best of luck to you

It might be easier just to say.

Oh my goodness, thank you everyone - what a really special and supportive bunch you all are!

The 'bump' has literally popped over the last few days and as you've all said I've been wearing leggings and baggy hoodies/jumpers and dresses .. I guess if I'm honest is the emotional 'bump' of keeping such a big thing quiet when everyone is going to be gathered together and my brain has turned that into anxiety over starting to show.

It's so strange because with all my other pregnancies and the live babies i was always considered very small right up to the end, if I hadn't seen for myself a few days ago that there is definitely only one in there I'd be starting to panic!

I think the difference this time is the baby himself, because he's healthy and growing properly he's creating proper amounts of amnio and all his limbs are measuring right on gestation - he's already such a wriggler as well, I didn't have much movement from the other boys as my placenta was always at the front so this has been interesting!

@misselphaba this is honestly my biggest fear when I think about it all .. we had began to form a more solid life map, allowed the children to weigh in on big planning because we'd decided there'd be no more massive alterations to our lives and I've just set that back 4 years again to where we are presently .. all because I made a rash decision instead of just watching some porn and accepting my single status sex life xx

There's no point beating ourselves up for our decisions. I'm trying to practice that myself but not quite there yet. Life is just a series of decisions and consequences. Some considered and planned with every eventuality in mind and some spur of the moment. Even the well planned out decisions can end up having unplanned consequences. We can't control that bit. Things will be OK for you and your children. Not as you planned but life would be boring if it was all planned out and tied in a bow (is what I keep telling myself).

@misselphaba that's a really good way of looking at things xx