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When did you announce your pregnancy?

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erised · 22/12/2019 00:38

My immediate family know but no one else yet. I'm currently 9+4 and have my first scan on 13th Jan. Is after the first scan usually when you annouce it to everyone? As I have friends and family all over the place, I'm planning on just making a little Facebook post if everything is ok.

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zsazsajuju · 22/12/2019 00:40

20 weeks for my first (other than to my dp and boss)

ChanklyBore · 22/12/2019 00:43

16 weeks
24 weeks
12 weeks
6 weeks

I have looked at that too much and the words weeks have lost all meaning!

It’s up to you,op, what do you want to do?

pumpandthump · 22/12/2019 03:47

For Facebook, never. For people I didn't see I messaged them from about 24 weeks, once the anomaly scan showed things were ok. For people I saw, I told them from 18 weeks unless very close (didn't tell my mum until 16 weeks but told some good friends at 6 weeks).

RhymingRabbit3 · 22/12/2019 04:00

We told parents very early, around 6 weeks, because we would have wanted their support in case of a loss anyway. I also told a few close friends at around 10 weeks.

Other family at 12 weeks and if we saw people and it happened to come up in conversation then we would mention it.

I'm 28 weeks now and we haven't put anything on Facebook or other SM and probably won't until after the birth.

Mintjulia · 22/12/2019 04:03

At work, at the legal limit. Until then, a loose jacket over a black t-shirt & trousers can fool most people. I was lucky that I didn’t get morning sickness.

I was fairly surely my employer would react badly (I was right) so I left it until the last minute.

Andersonx3 · 22/12/2019 07:14

Parents & siblings at 5 weeks, we would have wanted their support if there were any complications or a loss. Announced on Facebook at 13 weeks but rarely posted much else until she was born, it was just to let extended family & friends know in the easiest way as I have moved away from where I grew up so don't see many of them often. Work I told at 15 weeks as I had to go to hospital a few times and could only palm it off on my arthritis so many times!

Briz · 22/12/2019 07:37

I'm at 10 weeks and have told my close friends and family. I've had quite a few miscarriages and their help and support has been vital for me to get through the last few years.
I've also told my boss - for the same reason. If I have another miscarriage I will need a few days off to deal with it. It's one of those things where it is completely up to you. I personally don't like Facebook announcements as they seem a bit insensitive (Facebook 'friends' might be struggling with all sorts of things such a as infertility).
But you need to do what it right for you. If you're a private person then keep it to yourself. If you benefit from the support of others and being able to talk about what's going on, then tell your friends and family.
Wishing you all the best

mamansnet · 22/12/2019 08:02

I'm 5+4 and planning to tell family on Christmas Day! I had an MMC at 8 weeks in October 2018 so will need the extra support if this one doesn't work out

lostandconfused2 · 22/12/2019 14:41

Told my parents the day I found out, told everyone else after my 12 week scan.

flissity · 22/12/2019 14:45

Still haven’t really ‘announced’ it. Am 17 weeks.
But told family after 12 week scan (this is 3rd DC)
Gradually have told some friends as and when we see them. But won’t be doing a ‘social media’ announcement as it isn’t isn’t really us.

Congratulations!! X

MarshmallowsOnToast · 22/12/2019 14:56

Told close family & friends the day after I found out (4 weeks). I figured if the worst were to happen I'd rather have my mum & MIL & best friends to lean on. Plus I was going out for a friend's birthday that night & they would have noticed I wasn't drinking,

Work & other people 12 weeks.

frillyfarmer · 22/12/2019 15:09

22weeks with this one. After an ectopic and two miscarriages I didn't have the confidence to do any sort of twee announcement. DS was announced on FB at about 16 weeks. There isn't a "safe" point in pregnancy so really it's whenever you feel comfortable.

Peanutty86 · 22/12/2019 15:09

@erised we told my sister very early as I'm very close with her. She's a midwife (not in this country, I'm not British) and she arranged a scan for my next visit. We saw a heartbeat at 6+2 and that same night I told my parents in person. I would've wanted their support if something was to go wrong. Then his parents around 10 weeks and other people once we had the results from the NIPT back. We didn't make an announcement on social media or anything, because that's not me (husband wanted to but I said don't before the 20 weeks scan and after he felt it was too late)...

With this one I think we will do similar, potentially even waiting to tell his family until after the NIPT results, but my family will probably know before the scan as we're flying out on Boxing Day and there's no point trying to arrange a scan before 6+, so I'm hoping my sister can get me in before I fly back mid January.
SIL has been TTC for a few months now and we fell pregnant first cycle TTC so I feel guilty telling them as it is. They are not aware that we wanted to try. I'm secretly hoping that the longer we wait to tell them, the bigger the chance that she is pregnant herself at that point.

orangejuicer · 22/12/2019 17:03

5w - DP - immediately once I found out, rang him in work!
5-6w - DB and DSiL, also my boss (I had gone home ill from work so had to have a back to work interview)
12w - both sisters and my dad - with a scan photo
Everyone else probably about 16w.

Betsyboo87 · 22/12/2019 17:14

I told my manager at 12w only because I’m the 3rd pregnancy in 6 months and there’s only 6 of us in the team. We were sorting out maternity cover the other two so felt it was only fair.

We’ll tell both sets of parents at 14w on Christmas Day. We live a long way away and wanted to do it face to face so this was our earliest opportunity.

Hoping to get to 18w before telling anyone else.... I hate attention! We’re not Facebook announcers either.

Lizzieee2727 · 23/12/2019 04:16

We told my best friend as soon as we found out (she told me first when she was pregnant and has also gone through the losses and successful pregnancies), his best friend and parents, basically because if the worst happened we'd want their support etc. I confided in a colleague the next day who was invaluable in making up meetings etc when I had to run to the toilet or go off for a nap. We also ended up telling siblings a few weeks later as my husband was going in for surgery and has a track record of blurting his secrets when high on pain meds...
I did a Facebook announcement too but only after 2 scans as I still couldn't quite believe it. We've got friends and family all over the world so it was easier to pop up a post to let people know.

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