Help! We can't agree on names!

[sel2223]

I'm English, OH is Turkish and we've agreed to go for a Turkish name for our first baby.

While we are finding girls names easy, we simply cannot agree on boys names at all and it starting to cause a bit of tension.

I want a modern sounding name with no special letters/characters which will work in both Turkish and English. My faves are Eren, Evren, Koray, Adem or Zakil (Zak for short).

OH hates all my names! He wants a strong, traditional name like Mehmet, Hamza, Hayat, Sercan or Ali....I don't like any of those.

Help! Anyone else on a totally different page to their partner when it comes to names? How did you agree? I feel like we've already exhausted Google and can't find a single boys name we both like!

Love Aslan. Would be shortened to Az in my town.

I like Evren too.
How about Raif or Zeki?

we have postponed the 2020 wedding due to me falling pregnant but are now planning it for 2021. I don't want to give our child one surname then change it less than a year later

Well that’s a major break in Tradition and a big compromise on your part, I hope he recognises that.

You are running the risk that if you don’t get married , your child with be stuck forever with a different name from their mother.

Of course it’s up to you. But you seem to be doing all the compromising here, which doesn’t bode well for your relationship.

I hope you find a name that you are happy with.

@CoatTails thank you....I like az!

@Newcottage20 I love the meaning of Evren (the universe) but OH really doesn't like it for some reason. We know someone called Zeki who is not the nicest person and Raif is good but may be hard to get the pronunciation right. I would say Ray-F but OH says it Rah-Eef

@IM0GEN we are definitely not traditional lol. I still use my ex husbands surname and wouldn't want to give the child that name....but If I gave it my maiden name, then it's different to mine anyway.
My sister is in the same position, her DD has the dad's surname but they are not married. I don't really see it as a big deal to be honest.

We really couldn't even shortlist for one sex names so we decided at the last minute to find out what we were having but not tell anyone, as that way we could have spent the next half of the pregnancy using energy on something which was never actually going to be used. As it happened we were having the sex that we had no shortlist for so we created a long short list and it didn't really get any shorter until after baby was born (in my defence baby came very early so I was still at work etc) but we ended up going for a name which I'd ruled out weeks ago because whilst I liked it, I thought my husband didn't, and then that apparently wasn't true. Once the baby is here you'll be able to try calling it different names and then get a feel for which one works. Before that it's far too abstract. We also called our baby the name we called it when it was inside me for a few weeks during the "transition" period.

From what you've said I'd strongly consider finding out but keeping it a secret as if you're having a girl then you've spent all that energy and time on boys names which then isn't actually needed.

It isn't a big deal your child having their fathers surname even if your not married 🙈 my eldest has my ex's surname and I now have my husbands surname as does our youngest!

Anyway op I think the Aslan is a nice name and if you both like it then that's a bonus also agree with pp it would probally be shortened to Az instead off ass lol. Even probally Azza by friends as he gets older.. X

@Cardboard33 thank you. I've heard that from a few people about babies suiting certain names when they are born and not others. I was kind of hoping to have a shortlist with a few names on it to decide after they're born but that's looking less and less likely since we're struggling to agree on a single one lol.
I really want to avoid finding out the sex if I can. I absolutely love the idea of not knowing and getting the surprise on the day!

@Boymummy3 thanks, I don't think it's a big deal either. As long as a child is loved and protected, that's what matters.
I think you are right about Az or Azza....I think I'm just overthinking everything now