(Very) newly pregnant

[Maggie272]

Hello everyone, I hope it's ok to join in here! I've just found out that I am pregnant, after a gruelling year of infertility treatment. It is male factor infertility, I am fine. I have had two chemical pregnancies this year, and I'm hoping this one works. I've just reaching my official test day for the clinic, had a strong line, and go back in 6 weeks for a scan.

Because of the chemicals, I'm quite anxious. Then I worry about the anxiety effecting the baby. So it's an endless circle! Everyone keeps telling me the baby won't be effected by it...hope that's true. We had a busy day today, a little stressful at work, but hoping that won't effect it either...any reassurance welcome!
M x

Hi @Maggie272 Congratulations!

Honestly, don't worry about anxiety and stress, it doesn't have any baring on your pregnancy. Pregnancy loss is almost never anything to do with the mother. Unfortunately I can't give you much reassurance as it's just a waiting game at this stage but I will keep everything crossed for you that this little one sticks and your pregnancy progresses well and healthily x

@CoffeeAndCarbs you've just made my day, I'm so relieved to hear that. Likely I will need someone to say after the next stressful day, but that is just lovely. Hope you are well xxx

@Maggie272 wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months. Infertility is a bitch. I'm very newly pregnant too after 3 miscarriages and endometriosis.

Keeping them crossed for both of us!

@London91 Congratulations! How far along are you? I will keep everything crossed!

@maggie272 congratulations! Infertility/pregnancy has also brought out anxiety that I never knew I had. In the first few weeks I didn’t have a clue how I would get through pregnancy. I felt like the fog started to lift around 10/11 weeks and now at 13 weeks I’m starting to let myself feel some excitement. As pp has said, don’t add to your worries by thinking it’s affecting your baby. Just take it one day at a time.

@Betsyboo87 thank you so much! And congratulations, that's amazing!

We were having some painting work done at our house, inside, and I was freaked out that the paint fumes (they used oil on the doors) would affect the baby. I slept on the other side of the house, and we kept the doors closed to create a 'safe zone'. I in haled a little, and my chest got a little irritated. But my mum told me that she was varnishing and painting for weeks before she knew she was pregnant...so all these worries...

I'm glad to hear there is a point where you feel a little more confident. Wishing you all the best!
M x

@Maggie272 3+5 so extremely early. I had a weird dream and stupidly tested at 8dpo and got a faint but clear positive. How many weeks are you?

I did IVF! It's crazy - My transfer was 11 days ago, but I am 4+2 - will be six weeks on Jan 1st! Congratulations to you @London91!

Wow, it's crazy we both got such early positives! Best of luck!

Congratulations @Maggie272 🧡 I’ve no experience but just wanted to offer some words of comfort - very little external influence causes miscarriages. People smoke & drink not knowing they are pregnant & baby is fine. People work in professions where they are around chemicals/fumes all day, even an example such as a hairdresser! So much hair product in the air! Walking down the road, you are inhaling pollution & fumes.. driving in your car much the same. Stress is just part of life, really can’t harm baby in anyway (unless you were in some kinda extreme scenario) but not great for you in the tiring first trimester! Try stay zen! It’s all OK. These things don’t cause miscarriage. The vast vast majority of miscarriages are due to a genetic fault with baby that was just not compatible to life. And nothing either of you did/do caused it, DNA & the body is incredibly complex!

I did GoApe the day before my positive test this pregnancy and had an extremely tight harness around my stomach and was throwing my self off trees! Baby is 27 weeks now & appears fine! I suffer from Hyperemesis & have had to throw medication at my babies to survive. Multiple anti-sickness & antacids, I’ve had steroids for a severe asthma flare up this time, I take daily inhalers & I’ve had two rounds of antibiotics! Pregnancy is a real joy for me

I’ve got all my fingers crossed for you! 🧡 try to relax & go about normal life. It’ll help time go much quicker!

@Bol87 thank you for such a generous response! Wow, you were really throwing yourself around before your test! That's so funny : ) Great to hear you are doing so well. Yes, I think i understand now about the risk factors for a mc...I think I just can't believe that I am pregnant - and I'm so afraid it will not last. I would be totally fine living life without kids, but after IVF, once you're on the rollercoaster it's hard to get off.

I'm so sorry about your hyperemesis...I just felt very quersy today, for the first time, and it was actually comforting. Can't imagine what your condition must be like though...
thank you so much for your well wishes, i send you all my best too xxx