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Elective C Section?

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Jsnb9319 · 16/12/2019 19:41

Hello,

So I am 32 weeks and baby is transverse and back to back. He has been breech until past couple of weeks. Under consultant care due to high risk (I have asthma and mum had pre-eclampsia with me) so the consultant has said if baby still not in position by 36 weeks we will discuss delivery options.

On top of baby's current position and high risk, I am also rhesus negative and currently anaemic and on iron. Because of all of this, I'm wondering whether to go for an Elective anyway in the event baby doesn't get into position (or does, still has time).

The way I am viewing it is, there are a lot of moving parts to my pregnancy and I'd rather go in for a planned, than go into spontaneous labour and then need an emergency C section.

I just wondered what peoples thoughts and experiences were? I do not feel like I will miss out on a natural birth at all, I just want us both in the world safely.

I am seeing the consultant next week so I am planning on discussing then for medical advice but wanted experiences from other women.

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LucyH10 · 16/12/2019 23:07

Hi Hun,
I went in and had a planned section with my little girl earlier this year. I am also Rhesus Negative and too was Anaemic during pregnancy. Believe me , having your baby by section does not make you any less of a mother. It is still so beautiful to watch your baby come into the world, whichever way that might be. My daughter had a few complications so I didnt have much choice, if I went through a natural birth she wouldn't have made it. Having it planned almost relieved me because I knew that everyone would be prepared for her to enter the world!

You go with whatever you feel is right for you and your baby and as I said before it is still so beautiful whichever way you choose! Good luck hun xx

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Jsnb9319 · 17/12/2019 06:52

Thank you for your reply, I guess there is also a bit of a social disagreement with electives that it does make you less of a mother so good to hear not the case! Thank goodness you DD is in the world safely because of it!

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ree348 · 17/12/2019 07:07

Hi!

I have had both an emergency c section and a planned one. Needless to say, the emergency section was a difficult process to go through but my child was born safely and healthy. With my second it was elective, and a smoother process. The reason I wanted to go for an elective this time round is, is like you say you could go through a difficult labour with a baby already in breach only for it to turn into an emergency c section anyway. So you would've gone through all that for nothing!

Also, it doesn't matter how your baby is born it's beautiful regardless.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

RhymingRabbit3 · 17/12/2019 07:07

I don't know anyone who has that opinion, OP. Mums beat themselves up about everything - birth choices, feeding choices, how much their baby eats, sleeps, plays. Go with whatever you and your doctors feel is safest for you and your baby.

Wonderland18 · 17/12/2019 07:13

I went for an elective as my birth was bound to end in an emergency. I didn’t enjoy it purely down to the staff.

One of them mocked me for crying over the spinal but it was all a bit overwhelming. She said she’s never seen someone cry about it before and laughed. I didn’t regain my feeling for about 8 hours and not once did a midwife come change my DD’s nappy and if I buzzed they would come say they would be right with me. I ended up hunched over the crib half sitting trying to change a dirty and already sore looking baby bum.

All ended fine, you get out quicker with an elective (next day) and once your home things feel normal, healing from a surgery isn’t fun but any birth is beautiful.

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Jsnb9319 · 17/12/2019 10:03

Thanks all for your replies, really good to hear your experiences x

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LondonKate · 17/12/2019 11:24

I am rhesus negative, the potential issues are easily controlled by the Anti-D injections. So for all the other things I would discuss it with your consultant and make your own decisions. But the rhesus factor thing doesn't need to be an issue.

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Jsnb9319 · 17/12/2019 15:38

So it seems it is just my DH who thinks this and apparently I'm taking a natural birth away from him Hmm

Massively frustrated but I'll speak to the consultant next week. Not sure how many times I have to tell DH he is not the one giving birth....

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Justasconfusedwithnumber2 · 17/12/2019 15:41

OP, your right, it's YOU giving birth. Your DH should be here to support you not tell you your depriving him of what he wanted. He isn't the going through it.. Hmm

Iseethesilverlining · 17/12/2019 15:43

Two elective sections for good medical reasons, as yours is. DH was with me, held the babies as soon as they were delivered - he wouldn’t have been able to do that with an emergency section! It isn’t your DH’s body which will be giving birth, it’s yours. Your decision.

Justasconfusedwithnumber2 · 17/12/2019 15:45

FWIW I ended up with failed forceps and an Ecms after 3 days labour with back to back baby. The recovery was really tough because I was exhausted to say the least. IMO my baby was never going to come out vaginally. I blamed myself that I failed but the bottom line is my son is now two and a very happy healthy boy. I am now 36 weeks pregnant and have just booked myself in for an elective c section which I expect will be much much calmer and easier to recover from. I've had a few raised eye brows and 'well that will be easy' comments, but I don't care. I know its not easy, and I know how much damn harder an ecms would be if I tried a vaginal delivery and 'failed' again. You have to go with your gut.

goingtoneedabiggercar · 17/12/2019 16:02

I had an ELCS because baby was estimated to be very big and I was worried about the risk of EMCS. I had a very positive experience, staff were lovely had skin to skin in theatre. Out and back home in 2 days, the subsequent issues I've had I think would have happened anyway. Issues Bfing and anxiety. Actually the anxiety would probably have been worse with a vaginal delivery. If your DH is so hell bent on a vaginal delivery then he can figure out how to give birth himself, until then you get to decide. I'm only 4 weeks PP but recovery has been going well so far and I've been cleared to drive again.

Selfsettling3 · 17/12/2019 16:23

Your DH can fuck off. I was desperate for a VBAC and the consultant preferred me to have section at that point DH did say I don’t want you to risk your life. It was a fair enough comment but he supported me through my vbac.

adag · 17/12/2019 17:18

Elective section for my first (breech and I had severe pre-eclampsia)... I worried I had taken the moment of a natural birth away from dh but he thought that was incredibly stupid. Plus he thinks he looks like George Clooney as he got to wear scrubs in theatre (spoiler alert, he didn't). For me, the whole experience was fine and we both ended up healthy... do what is best for you xx

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