Asking for advice or reassurance about my baby - 9 wks

[CouldBeAGreatMum]

I am currently 9.5 weeks. Up until 6/7 weeks I had a whole bunch of symptoms, including nausea, heartburn, constant small cramps, very sore boobs, headaches, strong smells etc. For the last fortnight, this has all stopped, apart from my boobs are still swollen and a bit tender (but not as much).

I have read threads on here saying symptoms come and go, so I know it's not a good idea to panic. But most people seem to say their symptoms disappear for a day and then come back, whereas mine have gone for 2 weeks solid. I have had a horrible cold / flu during this time, and the midwife said that those symptoms could have taken over from the pregnancy ones, which I thought sounded like a bit of an odd explanation!

I guess I'm asking, if the baby had died, would I know about it? Would I have had an obvious miscarriage? I have had no bleeding.

My scan isn't until January, and as I'm 40 I'm naturally a bit worried.

My symptoms seemed to fade at about 10 weeks, but did sometimes reappear up until about 14 ish weeks! It could just be that the placenta has taken over and is doing most of the work! Perhaps you could book in for a private reassurance scan? I did this as was very anxious due to a previous MC. It wasn’t that expensive and definitely helped me relax!

As far as MC symptoms, when I had one I had spotting and then bleeding and it was fairly obvious what was happening. I know some people do experience miscarriages without symptoms. Try not to think the worst though as there is every chance your baby is healthy and you are just lucky to not have horrible symptoms!

Good luck!

Some people do experience miscarriage without bleeding, at least not to begin with anyway. This is because the hormone levels stay high enough that the body doesn't miscarry despite the pregnancy not being viable. However, because the hormone levels remain high, nausea and other pregnancy symptoms etc often persist. So your symptoms abating doesn't point towards a missed miscarriage.

If you're worried, have you thought about a private early scan? I found a place that changes £49 so it's become a bit of a habit.

Thanks for these responses. @misselphaba I have found somewhere that does private really scan locally. It's affordable and I could book this week on a day my DH has off from work.

Do people think this is a good idea? On a good day we would get to see the heartbeat (I'll be 10 weeks by then?). On a bad day we would not see the heartbeat and I would then go to the EPU and get more of an idea? Either way we would have an element of knowing more - even though I know things could still go wrong later down the line.

Basically i'm weighing up the pros and cons but think, on balance it would be a good idea to have the early scan. If it's bad news I'm going to find out sooner or later anyway.

I was the same. My symptoms disappeared. I’m now 11 weeks, all I have is back pain and the occasional stomach flip flop feeling. I’m yet to have my scan but I have no symptoms of miscarriage. My friend who is 20 weeks said her symptoms disappeared at 10 weeks hope this helps

I'd get an early scan (an internal one) if I were you. Just for a peace of mind at least. At this point you'd definitely see a heartbeat.

I think I'd go and put my mind at rest hun,there is nothing wrong with being anxious and by 10 weeks there is no reason why you wouldn't see a heart beat as its visable from 6 weeks xx
Good luck hun and try not to worry xx

You should definitely see a heartbeat at 10 weeks. I've had a lot of private scans and I do find them (temporarily) reassuring. I've had a missed miscarriage in the past and so I'm finding this pregnancy tough - hence all the scans!