Had first at 37, when to try for second?

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DP and I haven't quite worked out whether to try for another. DS was a very welcome surprise (I have PCOS) last year, the birth recovery wasn't great (c section) but I'm fine now.

My question is how long can I wait before (if) we try for another? I've just gone back to work so would want to leave it another year by which time DS will be 2 and I'll be 38 going on 39.

I have some health issues to work on (weight etc) but don't want to leave it so late that the risks to baby increase.

Any thoughts? When did you have your second?

I had my second pretty soon after, only 14 months between my two boys. I don't think there is ever a right time.

18 months between the 2. Ds was born when I was very nearly 41

I had my first at 37 too, after over a year of trying. DD is now 18 months, I've been back to work since April this year. We didn't take precautions in August and it happened straightaway this time! We thought it might take a while again, but were very lucky. I've just turned 39 and didn't really want to leave it too long anyway. So I'll finish up at work next April, which means I'll have done exactly a year back at work

*DD will be 23 months

IMHO if you want another DC you can’t wait at all because of your age - your fertility is declining so be very careful about any decision to delay (I was lucky to have had three between 36 and 39)

Think you have answered your own question with saying you want to wait at least a year.. 38/39 isn't a bad age to have another baby (risks do increase the older you get) but you will already know this anyway and there are ladies late 40's having heathly pregnancies so tbh whenever you and dh are ready for another then go for it but also be prepared at the same time it might not happen straight away so maybe factor that into the situation too give yourself 6 months maybe then start trying if you didn't want to rite now x

Thanks all.

Yes Metro I agree but as we're only on one salary now (DP is a SAHD) I need to have a bit of a break for work plus I don't feel up to being pregnant right now (though I do miss it). I think its maybe 6-8 months then start trying and see what happens.

Totally get it OP - no easy answers here, but I’m sure it will all work out for you as you sound very sensible in your approach.

I went back FT when each DC very young and it was very tough physically, emotionally and financially. Not sure I would make the same choices over again....

ASAP if you are desperate to have another DC & have PCOS. No two ways about it. Depends on how devastated you would be if you delayed things & it didn't work out, which is a distinct possibility!

First at 37, second at 40.

Honestly, given your age, I'd be inclined to start trying as soon as possible.