25 weeks keep getting so angry at partner...

[Moonfish1]

I feel like such a horrible person! I guess pregnancy hormones are worse than I thought they could be.

I'm 25 weeks pregnant and for the last couple of weeks I keep getting REALLY angry at DP. To the point I'll be physically feeling upset and enraged (shaking, breathing fast), feeling like he's done something to attack me. It's got so bad I've actually asked him to leave for a few days.

It'll be over fairly small things, but they've become huge things for me now, and massive triggers. end up feeling like all I want is for him to leave, like our relationship will never work and I almost hate him. Then once he's gone for a little while I feel heartbroken and guilty and remember I love him and will apologise like crazy, but before long we're back to square one again and I lose it at him. I keep doing such petty things like blocking his number/Facebook etc

It's so horrible! I was never like this before pregnancy and I'm so upset with myself for not being able to control it. I feel like an awful person. Please tell me I am not alone in this. I feel so much at a loss for what to do!

Hello!

I know exactly what you’re going through! I was the exact same and to be honest I didn’t find a complete resolution, the best thing I can suggest is when you are feeling like yourself without any anger talk to him about how you feel when do get like that and suggest ways that he could help you when you feel that way! I definitely found that that helped because before hand how he thought he was helping me was actually just enraging me more! As for getting yourself worked up to the point of shaking it’s not nice at all, I found myself the exact same up until about 30 weeks then I started listening to calming music at night time and practicing deep breathing when I felt stressed or down, I’m not saying it works for everyone but it may be worth a try!

Hope this helps!

I was an utter cow with my DH during my 2nd pregnancy I couldn't help it at all. I was so nasty and constantly moody with him it was beyond a joke.. I'm actually really surprised he stayed with me because I personally wouldn't of put up with that for 9 months. I use to explain to him that I couldn't help it and I was trying not to snap at every little thing but before long I did it again. Soon as I had Ds2 I was back to my old self.. Those hormones are absolutley horrid.. A few months down the line and we went to a wedding little one wasn't well and we had our Ds1 with us too and I again was acting like an utter cow I'm actually ashamed when I look back at how I acted the whole day.. I now think I had postnatal depression it soon worn off again but I got to thinking that when I was pregnant with Ds2 the hormones mixed with depression was probally the cause of it.

I would suggest maybe speaking to your midwife she would of probally heard similar from 100s of other women before and she may be able to help suggest ways to deal With how your feeling . Speak with your dp too and explain exactly how your feeling x

What kind of things is he doing ?

I'm feeling exactly the same!
Only 21 weeks but everything my partner is doing is winding me up. I've had times when I can't stop crying and can't control my anger either and have asked him to leave knowing full well it's not what I want.
It's just something I can't control and I'm not sure what to do :(
I was never this crazy before but feel I just can't stop! I didn't have any of this in the first trimester but it all seems to have come flooding in the second!
So glad I'm not the only one!

Thank you all for your replies!

Whilst I hate to hear that some of you are suffering now, I'm also so glad to hear I'm not alone! @ejmay90 I really feel for you, it's so hard to control. I keep telling myself I won't do it again but it's so much easier said than done.

It's interesting to hear that you suspect if was in part to do with depression @Boymummy3 because I'm struggling with depression badly throughout this pregnancy. It makes a lot of sense that a combination of hormones and depression would make us feel angry and let down easily. It sounds a lot like our anger is because we feel hurt or let down.

I spoke to DP about it this morning and he was so lovely about it. He said he's really happy to have heard this come from me, and that although he's under a huge amount of pressure he will continue to try not to take it personally. I really hope I can manage this a bit better! It's awful snapping at him when he's so nice about it.

@kimjl57 your idea about deep breathing makes so much sense. I'm at that point in pregnancy where I'm noticing I get breathless so easily, and if you think about the fact that breathlessness is so linked to feeling anxious it makes a lot of sense that taking the time to breathe would help. I did a lot of meditation and yoga before pregnancy, but it's all slipped because it's been a rough pregnancy. I'm going to try some deep breathing exercises and guided meditations again - thank you for reminding me!