I feel like im in a crisis

[Poppet626]

I had an abortion early last year, i told myself i would not do this again.

I told my partner i was pregnant, he freaked out.. i said i wanted to keep the baby and he said he would leave, i would ruin his life. I was broken. Since then he seems to have calmed down but has asked me to see a pregnancy advisor to discuss things. He is worried about financial issues as am i as neither of us earn very much and are both in debt etc but in my heart a baby needs love not money.. however i cannot stop crying anymore. This is very early days yet i feel i already love this baby and keep on thinking about who they will be. I am worried about losing my partner as i do love him, i feel guilty for ruining his life, i feel scared about possibly becoming a single Mum. I feel numb constantly, i feel trapped. I can't even go to work at the moment.

I don't know where to turn :(

I really feel for you poppet. We lost our first baby and now I'm pregnant with our second in non ideal circumstances.
We are in debt and had to move in with parents, I had to quit my job due to severe hyperemesis but we have proceeded with the pregnancy as I couldn't bear the thought of losing my baby again.
We are doing our best to make it work but it will be hard we know that but as you say a baby needs love not money and we are doing all our shopping for baby stuff on a very tight budget.
Wishing you all the best hun.

Its not a very nice to be bullied into making a choice and this is what your partner is doing. Yea, it is tough being a single mum, i am one but i wouldnt be without my little one. You have said you already love your baby, so think if you do what your partner asks and the relationship breaks down later down the line for another reason, how will you feel. This has to be your choice and your choice only.