Falling out of love while pregnant and giving birth alone

[Extradotcom]

Hi everyone
I just wanted to ask if anyone had experienced this. I’m 16 weeks pregnant at the moment so I’ve got a while to go get, but recently (the last few months or so) I feel like I’m just not in love with my partner anymore and I don’t feel close to him anymore. This is my second baby with him and we’ve been together 7 years, never felt like this with my first. I’m not sure what’s causing it or if it’s the pregnancy or hormones etc but as it stands at the moment I’m thinking of going to give birth on my own, I just don’t feel comfortable having him as my birthing partner (he was for our first). We haven’t even had sex in months because I just don’t feel it 🤦🏻‍♀️ Has anyone on here given birth alone and if so how was it? I also don’t have any friends that I would feel comfortable being in labour or giving birth in front of and definitely not my mum. I don’t have any sisters either. I’m really hoping my feelings return after this baby comes

P.s we have discussed the labour and I said I’m not sure if I wanted him to come, he said he would if I changed my mind but he’s not too fussed as the first time was stressful for him and he’s v squeamish

If you are only 16 weeks could a break help? It could be hormones. I hated my DH when I was pregnant with DS2.

@dimdarkashian that’s just it ever since I’ve been pregnant I feel like I hate him then I feel guilty for it
I always find myself getting annoyed at things like the way he snores and the way he messes up the cushions on the sofa and I know it seems funny but I feel like it’s really driving a wedge 😬

@Extradotcom I understand how you feel! Although it's my first pregnancy i've been feeling quite similar.
I feel very lonely and distant from my partner and have done for a while, we have argued a lot more during pregnancy but i am putting it down to hormones. He has been amazing during the pregnancy with doing things for me/walking the dog ect but lacks understanding when i may be feeling down. Especially when i'm nearing the due date of our first miscarriage so feeling a little low about that.
We have hardly had sex either and i think that's where some of the closeness has disappeared.
I would put it down to hormones and hopefully once the babe comes you will start to feel better. I'm hoping that's what will happen with me x

For a few months after I gave birth I felt like I hated my DP and didn’t want him to touch me at all. It stopped eventually and I’ve put it down to hormones.

I also had similar with my last pregnancy, the hormones definitely affected my feelings in a bit of an irrational way, so I would put it down to that. It got better afterwards!

Wow I’m glad I’m not alone, I can remember after I gave birth the first time I felt quite distant from him for a couple of months but not during the pregnancy. Maybe two months after I gave birth I started getting my life back and we were able to become close again as my dd was able to go to my mums for a sleepover and we could go out and spend time together, that really helped. Maybe I’m just feeling it during pregnancy this time and it’s down to hormones, I won’t get rid of him just yet!