Boyfriend Wants Me To Have Abortion im Almost 15 Weeks.

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Hello My boyfriend as been saying from day one have an abortion and i agreed then i changed my mind on the morning of the abortion now im too scared and i dont want to, but he doesnt want it, i dont think he will ever move on from this. What do i do? Having a abortion at almost 4 months seem more than Wrong to me..

Re: maternity pay; you may qualify for Maternity Allowance instead. It has different rules for qualifying:

In the 66 weeks before your baby’s due, you must also have been:

• employed or self-employed for at least 26 weeks
• earning (or classed as earning) £30 a week or more in at least 13 weeks - the weeks do not have to be together

You may still qualify if you’ve recently stopped working. It does not matter if you had different jobs or periods of unemployment.

Also I think you can check if you’re eligible for smp on the government website

If she was pregnant before starting the job she won't be eligible for SMP as you need to be 25 weeks pregnant by the time you have worked there for 26 weeks I.e. you arent pregnant before you start employment

Four months?! He's unsupportive and bullying you into something. It's way too soon to know if a lifetime commitment is likely or not. It's so unlikely this relationship will survive long term.

You need to decide which outcome is preferable to you and I think all of them are perfectly valid but YOU have to make the choice and not feel pressured into it either way by other people.

You poor love I'm sorry you're going through this As I see it your choices realistically are:

Continue the pregnancy BUT in the knowledge the relationship is unlikely to last long term so you may be a single parent but also may be tied to him for life by sharing a child (which may be something you want or not)

Terminate the pregnancy BUT in the knowledge you are unlikely to be with this guy forever (so the termination cannot be done for his sake because if you continue the pregnancy you probably won't have to deal with the fallout day to day anyway as I strongly suspect you'll break up very quickly unless you terminate)

Either way I think the crux of it is whether you feel prepared to be a single parent. It sounds like you have a good support network and safe home but there are so many other things to consider, you must do the right thing for you

Op you clearly don't want an abortion so don't do it. And I'm sorry if this post isn't nice but having myself pass a baby at 16 weeks due to miscarriage I can personally tell you how traumatic it was. If its not what you want don't put yourself through it. Sending best wishes

I've a friend who had a boyfriend who tried to push her in to it, she didn't, she kept the baby and is very happy with her baby and without him. X

I agree with @dontalltalkatonce don’t ever have a termination for a man if you don’t feel it’s right. You can legally have an abortion up to 24 weeks but I do agree with your mum in some way as at 14 weeks you would have to have a surgical abortion under anaesthetic. However, you do what’s right for you.
Don’t let money influence your decision either, you may not be entitled to maternity pay from your job but if you have worked 26 weeks in the last 2 years (I think it’s 2 years?) then you are entitled to maternity allowance which is £140 per week. So even if you haven’t worked at all in the last two years, as long as you can work up until almost your due date then you’ll be okay. You should also put a claim for universal credit, it wouldn’t be much but once you are claiming that then you can claim the £500 maternity grant for your first child which will cover the first basics like clothes and bottles etc.