Why do I feel like this? Don’t know what to do

[Bexx19]

So I’m 7 weeks pregnant and I feel literally nothing for it like I have done with the others. I have googled abortions but I wouldn’t do that as I don’t believe in them. But I just feel so rubbish like I can’t explain it like if I have a miscarriage I wouldn’t care (sounds horrible but) (because I’ve been through that and it’s horrible and I know people who have been through it to) but I just don’t feel anything? Is this normal or am I crazy lol hope to feel something once I have the scan at 12 weeks I’ve got a appointment with the midwife in a few weeks so I’m going to talk to her about it . Just what the hell is wrong with me!!!! Sorry if I’ve upset anyone because I know I sound ungrateful and stuff but I don’t know what to do? He’s anyone been through this and been ok in the end?

I didn't feel anything for either of my pregnancies. I did suffer with PND after the first, and still struggling now, so that may have affected the second.

Speak to your midwife if/when you get one. It may be a perfectly normal thing, it may be a sign of something else, but thats not guaranteed. Everyone is different. I'm not a very maternal person, but my DM and MiL are.

To add to that... I've bonded with both children, no problems.

@onetoomanybathtimes thank you I was just reading about pnd and wondering if you can get it in early pregnancy. I’ve been fine with the other pregnancy I have had (twins) then a Singleton but with this one I feel nothing and just so down and cba with stuff. No idea why 🤷🏼‍♀️

What are you expecting to feel? Honestly, I don’t think I thought a great deal about my pregnancy. I had a huge amount of other stuff going on.

@OneTooManyBathtimes this pregnancy was planned but I just feel nothing. I sound like a ungrateful bi*h I know. Think I’m going to talk to the midwife at my appointment and see what she says. I know I wouldn’t go through with an abortion because I don’t believe in them I just feel alone and feel like sht

@Bexx19 it is possible to experience perinatal depression, my Hyperemesis triggered it for me, which led to the PND.

But, it is also possible that right now, you may just be exhausted from everyday life. But as I said, talk with a midwife, and always let them know how you're feeling. Better to be honest than not

@SolitaryGrape just happy, joy the usually good feelings more then the cba, bad feelings (if you know what I mean)

Honestly there is nothing wrong with you and you will find more women who didn't 'feel' much than you will who did esp this early on... With my first I was like an excitable little puppy when pregnant and when he was born.
With my 2nd I didn't feel alot when I was pregnant just oh I'm pregnant again and probally more pissed off than anything during that pregnancy (maybe some of that was guilt because I had my son who was 5 and he would then have to share me) .. Even though we was actually trying for a baby it wasn't untill he started moving about that I started to feel like oh I'm having another baby wow... Then of course when he was born it was instant love and joy and I wouldn't of changed it for the world. I'm 33 weeks with my 3rd and again we wasn't preventing it from happening and it's only been recently that I've started to get a bit excited about him arriving. I think it's more the fact I want my body back though haha. I always think it's hard to bond with an unborn child because you havnt actually met them yet. I know as soon as he's here I will feel exactly the same as I did with my other 2.
You will get through this feeling but of course speak with your midwife if you feel it will help because it's always better to speak out about how your feeling. Xx