Please help me somebody.

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Okay so i took the morning after pill under 24 hours after intercourse, since then my period hasn't come and my nipples have been sore, ive been so fatigued i even fell asleep on the bus to work but i thought it must just be the side effects of the pill but last night i took a test and it was positive. I am so petrified of telling my boyfriend. He really does not want kids atall right now, he never wants to speak about having them and i just know he's going to be really angry when i tell him, i think he might convince me to abort. I got an abortion when we first got together as it just wasnt the right time we had only been seeing eachother for about a month, i still lived with my parents and he lived with his friends etc. We now live together and the thing is i know i want babies and ive known for a while but right now wasnt the plan. I want to keep this baby, i cant go through with another abortion, i know i would regret and it and it just isnt where my heart lies right now. Im scared he will leave me if i dont get an abortion. Someone help me, im only 23. I feel so overwhelmed and in disbelief, i am so scared of what the future holds right now.

Hi op, sorry you’re so overwhelmed. It’s a big shock but it will be ok.

First things first, take a second test to be sure. Following that, speak to your boyfriend. It sounds as though you have made your mind up as to what you want to do. Please don’t let him convince you to do something you don’t want to.

Do you have a supportive family?

Sending you massive hugs but remember no matter what you decide, as long as you're happy with the decision, that's what counts.
Take a couple more days to get your head around what you want - you sound like you really do want this baby and that's okay. If that's still the case then make sure you have plenty of support around you and be prepared that he might not support your decision but ultimately, it's not his body nor total decision to make.
Definitely tell him once you know for sure what you want and you can only go from there. If he doesn't want to be involved that's his choice and you can go from there with family etc but some dads find they are set against the idea, then actually come around once it sinks in.
You will be okay no matter what you decide but please don't feel forced into a decision you don't want just to please him.

Hi OP, sorry to hear your dilemma, everybody has a right to choose and sounds like you know what you want to do. At 23 it is also reasonable that he may not be thinking the same as it’s very young (ok I think so at 36, but I’ve realised I’m actually getting older!). You have to prepare for doing this alone, and if that is what you want/can do, then you need to see what he says. He will still need to support you financially. Good luck and sorry you are in this position

Im 25 and my boyfriend is also 25. We had been together only 6 months when I found out I was pregnant. He did not want the baby, he cried and said he felt trapped and told me to abort it and “sort the problem out”. I decided I was going to keep it and not abort the child and I told him he could run away if he wanted to and have zero involvement and I wouldn’t ask him for any financial support. He has now come round to the idea and is excited and has started trying to think of possible names for the baby as well. My point is that many men get scared at first but they come round to the idea once it has sunk it properly, I hope this happens for you too!

If you want the baby then continue with the pregnancy. He has choices. So do you.

You will love the baby regardless, trust me.
Don’t have another abortion unless you want to. Don’t do this for someone else.