How did you tell your close family and how soon?

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My husband and I are planning on telling our parents and siblings this weekend by giving a Christmas card saying 'from us + baby coming July 2020' but I'll only be 7+3. Is that too soon? I really want to tell my family this coming week as it's the only time I'll see them face to face until March.

How did you tell and how far along were you?

Told my mum when my period was late, she can't keep her mouth shut so expect the whole of her street knew that day. Told a handful of very close friends, told wider circle of friends and work after my 18 week scan (no 12 week one then)

Kept to myself until 20 week scam, was perfect and would recommend t to everyone. Pregnancy flew by

Parents came to stay for the weekend when I was 6 weeks. I poured them a glass of wine and squash for myself.
Dad: Is there a reason you're not drinking?
Me: Yeah
Dad: Ah. Jolly good news.

That was DC2. With DC1 I rang them at about 5 weeks and told them I was pregnant. Pretty straightforward really. Don't get the whole announcement thing.

As for whether it's too early is entirely up to you. I've never kept a pregnancy secret once I knew despite my first ending in a miscarriage.

My parents as soon as I missed my period everyone else after 12 week scan.

I told my family at Christmas, I wrapped up a picture of my scan in a frame and watched them unwrap it, I was young, it was incredibly nerve wracking but it went down like a treat, I was 14 weeks.

Parents and siblings, it was a week or so after we found out, so about 6 weeks. I felt really sick and quite anxious, didn't want to pretend I was okay. We didn't make a big announcement or do anything special, just rang and told them. Family have had experiences of miscarriage and several work in healthcare - they knew not to get too giddy about it. Told my boss as well about 6 weeks as feeling sick and a close colleague. I told other friends as it came up, for example before a planned night out or holiday. Again, I didn't want to have to be sneaky or lie if asked and feel like I was waiting to get caught out. I also would have wanted people close to me to know if things went wrong. Told some more distant family/acquaintances after 12 weeks. Its very much personal choice!

17 weeks. I said ‘I’m pregnant.’

My family were staying for Christmas and I did my test before they left (I could t wait)
I wanted to be able to tell them in person
We told in-laws a week later when visiting for new year.

Telling family gives you a support network

13 weeks, weekend after 12 week scan. They aren’t local but we invented an excuse to pop in and see them on the way through to a fictional event.

I was 40 so risk of mc high and they have no other GC so didn’t want to get their hopes up too early on. They’d given up hope!

4 weeks, just took the test. Rang my mum but no answer so she rang back a couple of hours later when I was in the supermarket. I was so happy to tell her; I'd had a miscarriage the previous year. I told her straightaway with that pregnancy too.

I told my parents and sisters at 6 weeks by giving them Christmas cards addressed to ‘auntie X’ and ‘grandpa Y’ love from me + OH +1
The looks on their faces were priceless and I managed to catch them on camera!

I also told some close friends because I was supposed to be going on a long planned boozy weekend away and am feeling far too rough - I didn’t want to give a rubbish excuse as I was already very sad I couldn’t go, so just told the truth

Will start telling anyone who stands still long enough after 12 weeks!

Sent the pregnancy test to my sisters and a couple of good friends. From then after an early scan I pretty much said it to most people. I still haven't told a few but will do so sometime in January.

As soon as we found out... I was about 3 weeks at that point (v.short cycles) but knew if the very worst happened we'd want and need their support). I told my best friend first as she's been through the good and the bad pregnancies, then his best friend, then the parents. I confided in a colleague the next day who was awesome in making up meetings when I had to dash off or lie down. I didn't want to tell everyone else until we'd had the scans but husband had an op scheduled and when he has the hefty painkillers he has a history of blurting stuff out so we told the siblings then too ahead of time. I actually felt quite relieved to get the news out there and not to have to make up excuses.

With my first baby we wanted to wait until 12 weeks but I ordered something for the baby and it arrived at my mums house a few days early. With the second baby, there was a family gathering at around 11 weeks, so we told everyone then. Currently pregnant and will be 12 weeks on Christmas day so looking for a way of telling everyone then, but not having scan until 14 weeks.