Two consecutive miscarriages - to try again straight away?

[JadeRuby1988]

Good morning.
I'm writing on here to hopefully get some advise and see if anyone has been in a similar situation as me.
I'm 31 years old and no previous pregnancies apart from the below:
I came off the contraceptive pill in August and had a breakthrough bleed shortly afterwards. I then fell pregnant in September but unfortunately miscarried at 5 weeks.
I then fell pregnant again the following month but have just miscarried again at 6 weeks.
I feel mentally ready to try again this month but i am experiencing concern from friends and family about trying again as i haven't yet had a regular period between miscarriages or even a regular bleed since coming off the pill.
I've read online that there should be no reason why i should miscarry again if i try again this month or whether it could be best for my body to wait until I've had a full menstrual cycle?
I know it is my decision but I would be grateful for other opinions and whether anyone else has been in a similar situation.
Thank you in advance!

Only you can decide what you want to do.
I’m awfully sorry for your loss btw 💐

Personally I think I might give it a normal cycle before trying again however if not trying makes you feel awful then go for it.

I have no evidence to back this up but I’ve heard a lot of stories (friends and family) of women conceiving very quickly after stopping BC and subsequently miscarrying. My BFF is a nurse and sees it quite often, firmly believes the two are linked.

Fingers crossed it’ll be fine next time ❤️

Go for it. The only issue is you may struggle to date the pregnancy. Are you tracking ovulation?

I have 5/6 week miscarriages due to a genetic condition my DH has. We have always continued trying immediately. 3rd time was the charm for us :) I found pregnancy #3 comforting because I knew it would either end in a baby or in investigations which would bring us answers. Unfortunately the gap between #2 and #3 was really long, which was frustrating, but we got there in the end :)

Thank you both, both your replies are really helpful and I appreciate your support.
Sorry to hear this Bertie but that is reassuring to know. Yes I thought the same that I would rather try again and if I miscarried again I could start to get answers to why sooner rather than later.
If I was to fall pregnant again then I think I might wait until I go over the 7 week mark before I involve my midwife etc as that makes it more painful.
Yes I track my cycle and ovulation so although I won't be able to know exactly how far I am in the future, I will have a good idea. In a way I wish I didn't know I was pregnant so early but my body soon let's me know!!

Yes. I agree and I had the same policy for the last pregnancy. I waited until 6 weeks to let them know.

If you know ovulation date you can just estimate period date as 2 weeks previous to this.

I had an early miscarriage last October. A month to the day later I had a positive pregnancy test. Two days later I miscarried again - assume that's classed as a chemical pregnancy because it was so early. A month to the day after that miscarriage I was pregnant again. I'm now feeding my almost four month old! I'm
Glad we tried immediately.

As previous said only you can do what you feel is right . I suffered a 5week loss in June , a 6 week loss in July ,started trying again in sept and got my bfp in October. Im glad we did obviously but I did really debate trying again. we just decided to go for it in the end & if we had another loss we were going to stop trying . I’m now 12 weeks So fingers crossed it’s our happy ending .
Good luck to you love xx

I had three and we got on it straight away ❤️It is rough I remember. I would say seek help now as some GPs will refer to RCMU after two miscarriages.

There's research I read that you're more likely to have successful pregnancy if you actually get pregnant straight after miscarriage. As both were relatively early I don't think your body needs to recover as such. I had a loss at 4.5 weeks and then got pregnant again straight afterwards. I'm now 25 weeks. I think doctors don't alwaysike it because it's difficult to dtae pregnancy

Thank you all so much for your replies and sharing your sensitive stories. I've found it really helpful! I'm going to track ovulation and start trying again so fingers crossed!

@JadeRuby1988 Hi Jade, I have exact same story as you, just going through second loss in two months after coming off pill a few months ago, just wondering if you were able to have a successful pregnancy after the two losses? Xx

@JadeRuby1988

Good morning. I'm writing on here to hopefully get some advise and see if anyone has been in a similar situation as me. I'm 31 years old and no previous pregnancies apart from the below: I came off the contraceptive pill in August and had a breakthrough bleed shortly afterwards. I then fell pregnant in September but unfortunately miscarried at 5 weeks. I then fell pregnant again the following month but have just miscarried again at 6 weeks. I feel mentally ready to try again this month but i am experiencing concern from friends and family about trying again as i haven't yet had a regular period between miscarriages or even a regular bleed since coming off the pill. I've read online that there should be no reason why i should miscarry again if i try again this month or whether it could be best for my body to wait until I've had a full menstrual cycle? I know it is my decision but I would be grateful for other opinions and whether anyone else has been in a similar situation. Thank you in advance!

I was pregnant with my DS seven weeks after my second miscarriage so it can be successful.

[quote Slk3558]@JadeRuby1988 Hi Jade, I have exact same story as you, just going through second loss in two months after coming off pill a few months ago, just wondering if you were able to have a successful pregnancy after the two losses? Xx[/quote]
Hi there. I'm so sorry to hear this. It really is heartbreaking and I completely feel your pain.
I am pleased to say that I am now the proud owner of a healthy 8 week old little girl! I fell pregnant 4 months after my second miscarriage. I hope this gives you hope.
Stay strong, your time will come.
I have 2 friends who have also had 2 miscarriages and have gone on to have a successful pregnancy. I believe that there is a link with falling quickly after coming off contraception, especially the pill but obviously that isn't always the case.
My advise would be to give your mind and body some time to recover before trying again. I will admit that sadly my pregnancy was twinged with anxiety and worry. I found it helpful booking a private early scan at 8 weeks to get reassurance.
Try and see the positive that you are very fertile and there is no reason why you won't fall pregnant again. Just make sure you have had time to recover so you are mentally ready.
I tried to hold on to the belief that everything happens for a reason. Having miscarriages make you truly appreciate the gift of pregnancy and you never take it for granted which is a good frame of mind to have. I'm happy to answer any other questions you have. Sending lots of love to you.

Thank you for getting back to me. Congratulations that’s wonderful to hear that you we’re successful. It’s given me some hope . Wishing you all the best xx