Pregnant second time sad for first

[Aug2020]

I’ve just found out this evening I’m pregnant with my second child. Deep down I’m excited to have a baby again, and DH is overjoyed.

I know some people never get to have one, let alone two, children.

I’m just so sad and anxious about the effect a baby will have on my relationship with my first child, my gorgeous 23 month old son. I feel sick and very tearful. I’m sad that the days of just him and me, my little sidekick, will be over. My heart breaks to think he’ll have to share me and might ever feel second best. He’s all for me at the moment, and he’s the best thing to ever happen to me.

It took a year of ttc my son, this time round we dtd once, so although I knew it could happen, it’s come much sooner than I was expecting. I wonder whether we should have waited a bit longer.

Hello, I felt this mama guilt immensely when I was expecting my 2nd too. Honestly you've nothing to feel guilty for. At the end of the day you are giving your little one a sibling to share childhood with! What a wonderful gift! I've got four now and they have a whale of a time together! Just make the most of your time with your wee one and let go of that guilt

Thank you so much.

It’s so awful to admit but I can’t stop crying. I hope he won’t hate me, we have such a close bond at the moment.

Honestly I was the same, even after my second was born I felt as though I was mourning the time I had with my first. It was very intense at the time. Looking back, there is nothing to feel guilty for. It was the best thing I did having mine close together. I think this feeling of guilt is quite common. Hope you are ok.

So normal, I was in floods I had betrayed her and I'm from a big family.

The love expands, enjoy it.

Ps DD1 says her best ever gift was her younger sister, they adore eachother.

I am feeling the same. My little boy will be 18 months when the new baby arrives.
I am sure it'll be a big adjustment, but I keep telling myself how much, as an only child, I missed that family rough and tumble. I also think it'll be better in the long run because they'll have each other when me and their dad are gone.

I felt EXACTLY like this!! I got pregnant unexpectedly when my DS was just turned 2. I cried loads over the loss of our little twosome and how I thought I had ruined his little life.
Baby sister is 7 weeks old and I he adores her. There have been hard moments as he's done alot of growing up but he is brilliant as a big brother and the way the baby looks at him melts me.
I'm an only child so it's all new ground for me!
All the best in your pregnancy

I have moments of feeling sad when I think about it not being just a family of 3 anymore.. but equally, I’m an only child and I long for a sibling. I get envious of those with big families! So I hope I’m making a great decision for my daughter 🧡

My main concern is the physical juggling of two 😬