5+5. Need someone to talk to? Because I do 🤣😩

[essexanon]

Hey all.

So a bit about me, I’m 30, suffer with PCOS and I found out a few days ago that I’m pregnant, really shocked as we only ‘did it’
Once and I wouldn’t of been ovulating according to dates. We weren’t trying but said we will start in the new year.

I really just wanted to let out on here as NO ONE knows I’m pregnant! Including my partner!! It’s killing me keeping quiet lol.

I plan on telling him on the 22nd dec as an early Xmas present, I have booked a private early scan for that day so will tell him just before. Will tell close family and best friends on Xmas day.

But I just wanna talk about my pregnancy and babies and everything in between😩

I have symptoms like sore boobies, sore back, look 5months pregnant not 5w, have cystic acne, oily skin and hair and really tired

Has anyone else got/had the cystic acne? It’s really bothering me, and I don’t know what to do. I just feel fat and spotty right now. Any recommendations on what to use?

Also- how did you all reveal to your partners & family you were expecting?

Finally, Im sooo anxious that something is going to go wrong, I keep getting my self in a state because it all seems surreal and I keep feeling like something bad is going to happen to the baby. Is this feeling normal? What can I do to calm my nerves.

Soooo sorry for the long post, first baby and I have no one to talk to about it yet. Xx

Congratulations!

I remember finding out when I was that early (I'm now 20+5 with my 20 week scan tomorrow.

The sore boobs are a thing aren't they? Tits of fire. The back ache too, wow. It really does calm down after 12-14 weeks. Then you get giant nipples and massive boobs in its place.

I had a lot of spotting between 8-10 weeks and it really scared me. I had 3 private scans and have had a loss earlier in the year which does nothing for the anxiety.

My advice would be to drink plenty of water because the bloats is ridiculous. And try and sleep as much as you can because by 8pm it's like you've been knocked out by a brick. Make sure you are taking pregnacare so you are feeding baby all it needs.

Try not to compare your pregnancy with others, forums can be really helpful and really scary. Every bodies journey is different.

Xx

@Pip231018 congratulations and thank you, I know the anxiety and worry is all in my head and I’m sure baby will be fine, I just can’t help but worry.

I agree, I learn so much in the forums, but I also read things then can’t sleep at night lol.

I’m taking vitamin D and folic acid, should I be taking pregnacare on top of that too? X

No, that's the recommended vitamins. I've just always taken pregnacare. I've been complimented on my Iron levels. I felt proud. Haha.

The anxiety doesn't go away I'm afraid. Time stands still in fact, it's like the weeks drag and it feels like you will never get to 12 weeks and you do. I'm in day 151 on my pregnancy and only 1/2 way through. After 14 weeks it felt like it sped up.

In my first 12 weeks I took no less than 20 pregnancy tests to offer me reassurance. It's mad how you become a different person. But I did what made me feel better. I've still got every test. No idea why.

Right now you will just be trying to get through to 12 weeks. Then at 12 weeks your just want to get to 18. Then at 18, you are desperate for the 20 week abnormality scan.

Enjoy the sleep in the first trimester because in the second, you pee more and are less tired. Hello, pregnancy insomnia.

It's my first too. So it's a real learning curve. Have you called your GP/referred yourself to the midwife? They usually want to see you from 8 weeks onwards. X

Congratulations!

I am currently around 6 weeks with our first baby and my anxiety has sky rocketed since we found out!
I have taken pregnancy tests daily for the last week or two just to make sure I'm not dreaming!

I made a little box for my partner, which included 3 pregnancy tests, baby booties, a book for expecting dads and a personalised newborn Babygrow and he loved it ❤️

Hope all goes well for you and your reveal scan x

@Pip231018 thank you, everything you’ve said makes perfect sense about waiting to get to the next ‘stage’. I’m actually struggling to sleep at night, but could murder a nap whilst I’m at work lol.

Yea I called and registered with the midwives on Monday, I got a letter today to meet them on the 14th. Where they will go through things and give me a dating scan date. xx

@HSunflower congratulations!! When is your due date? I’m glad I’m not alone with his pregnancy anxiety! I think I need to just chill out more and enjoy it whilst I have no sickness etc. I will prob relax more once hubby and close family know,

Your box idea sounds amazing! So thoughtful. I love hearing everyone’s reveal stories xx

Congrats everyone !

I'm 5 + 4 and my anxiety is extreme ! I'm a worrier anyways but this is just ridiculous. I find myself walking up at 6am and googling something to do with my pregnancy or symptoms then not being able to go back to sleep 😂.
I have early scan Tuesday so hoping for some good news for once 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Congrats! I'm also expecting found out today the little bean is 7±5 and is due 17th July, also happens to be my birthday and I'll be 30, just weird how these things all work out. I was told a few weeks before as I hadn't had a period for 8 months, that I wasn't producing the hormone to drop and egg, and now I'm 7 weeks pregnant 🙈 the baby is a true mirical. The weird thing is I had a scan a few weeks ago, and the nurse told me I had PCOS and thick womb lining and it was a cause for concern, I had a scan today and I have two wombs and things they were looking at the wrong womb and also confirmed I do not have PCOS, it's amazing how one person can't see what another sees, we saw the little heart beating, and also booked in with the midwife for wednesday. I too am keeping it quiet incase anything happens, but I honestly feel my body had just been waiting for the right moment.

I can't believe you can keep it so quiet and what an amazing Xmas gift to everyone! I was way too impatient and I'm the baby of the family but the eldest to have a child, it's kind of been pushed on me for the past 5 years 🤣

I hope you start to feel better soon, and I'm sure you will have lots of support on here X

👸Born 17th July 1990 my baby is due 17th July 2020 👸

@Born1990baby2020 aw amazing news for you!
Im going to be pregnant for my 30th in January! It's going to be a very sober 30th haha

@jdy123 I've got my Xmas party tonight for work and no one yet knows so I'm going to have to pretend I'm drinking or say I'm not feeling too good! We also picked the meal before I found out and I opted for pate I'm gutted I can't eat it 😭

congrats @jdy123 hope your early scan goes well tuesday! I cant wait until mine on the 22nd, im hoping I will calm down with the anxiety once ive had it xx

@Born1990baby2020 that's amazing! I think it was clearly meant to be for you lovely. I luckily had my 30th this year, but my birthday is the 15th july and my due date is the 28th july- which is my mums birthday and my sisters wedding anniversary. we have so many birthdays already in July (14) so this baby will be born in a very busy and expensive month indeed. Im also the baby of the family and everyone has been bugging me about babies also! which is why im expecting tears of joy on xmas day, we love xmas as a family so what better time to tell them! if I can hold it in that long lol xx

@Born1990baby2020 Awww yes no pate! I had a wedding last weekend and I just had to pretend I was drinking it was not easy ! Especially when I'm usually really drunk haha.

@essexanon thank you ! I think I'll have anxiety for ever😂. My varying symptoms are worrying me so bad I just want some set symptoms and I think I'll feel better !

Ah, wishing you all so much luck. This period of time is nail biting. Before you know it you'll have loads of symptoms and throwing up in the bathroom sink of a morning will be a daily occurrence.

I had my 20 week scan today and I'm 21 weeks tomos. I honestly never thought I'd get here and have been riddled with anxiety. As hard as it, try not to read too much, take too many tests and enjoy it as much as you can.

Lots of luck to everyone. Xx