Older mum and pregnant!

[ClaireP20]

Hi x I am 6 months pregnant at 45 years old (natural pregnancy) and I am in a complete panic, I keep waking up in the middle of the night having mild panic attacks. I just feel so old. I thought I had finished with the horrific sleepless nights, finished with arguing with hubby due to tiredness, and I have only just managed to get back to being me again. I love my baby already, and I know I just have to get on with it again, but doing it at my age all over again is so hard to contemplate. Will I live to see my baby get married, or will they become my carer...I have to lie about my age now to the other school mums, and whisper my date of birth when I go to the hospital. I am just embarrassed. My husband is even older than me, and looks it too. He is also worried about the new baby's friends taking the mickey out of him. I am crying as I write this. Is there anyone out there who can make me see the positives???? Xxx

I'm 37 and 6 weeks pregnant, my first child is 20 years old and at uni. I've been having mild panic attacks too worrying how I'll cope being older, and how I feel like a first time mum since it's been so long since my first. I'm seriously doubting myself at the moment but with each passing day I am getting used to the idea. Good luck and congrats!

I had my first at 46. Total shock but I couldn't love him more and although I do worry about some of the things you listed I console myself with the knowledge that he is getting the best of me. I was a mess in my 20's and 30's and would not have made the best parent. It's becoming far more common than you might think, congratulations !

Anyone here have the CVS test?
Had mine yesterday. Their idea of it feeling like period pain must be drunk. It really hurt.
So im now on tenderhooks waiting for the text giving the results

Congratulations! I'm 41 and I've just had twins. If you do Facebook search for a group called 'we are geriatric mums' it's a really supportive group xx

I am going to join facebook just to join 'ee are geriatric mums'! Thank you all xx
Stunned44: I didnt have the cvs test - too scared as someone I know had it and said it really hurt them too! I paid for the Harmony Test at simply fertilty in Chelmsford (£500 - still cant get over how much!) Xx

I was offered a blood test for money. i cant remember how much i was in a bit of shock but i know it was close to £400.
Youd have thought a blood test would be much cheaper for the NHS than the crazy that i went through.

I'm 41, 42 in March and have only just met the guy. We are trying now. I have no children already but I figure if my body lets me conceive then I'm not too old. I'm panicking it wont let me though. I still feel in my 20s (people tell me I look it too so part of me is hoping my insides arent ageing at the expected rate either 😂)
I looked this post up purely to give me hope that it is possible for me to conceive naturally. ❤

@Sabinaj78 good luck!! You just never know until you try. People in their 20s can struggle.
I recommend the ovia app for keeping track of everything.

@liverbird77 thank you for the recommendation. I've been using Fitbit as a rudimentary tracker but since I only had my implant removed mid-Sept, I'm yet to work out my true cycle and can't really rely on what it tells me atm.

I had a 25 day cycle whilst on the implant and after it was taken out I went nearly 7 weeks before AF first showed up and then just under 5wks after that. I take it as though my body is trying to figure itself out after being on lifelong contraception. We'll see what happens :) I'm only going to let myself get concerned once I can predict my cycle properly and if it then isn't playing along x

Around here it is seen as perfectly normal to be having babies in your mid 40s. With fathers even older. No one would bat an eyelid tbh!
Though I completely understand your concerns (and I wouldn't want to go through it at that age). Baby will be very, very loved.