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jenface · 02/12/2019 07:47

Not sure if I'm being swayed by my hormones at 33 weeks pregnant or if my in-laws are just pretty uninterested in us and this pregnancy. It's our first, and the first grandchild for them.

We only live about an hour away but historically have always been the one to visit them, MIL hasn't been to where we live since August last year. The rest of the family all live very nearby her so I can see that makes sense in someway but it does grate slightly, especially when invitations are just ignored.

I'm due the first week of January and have been told to stay put over Christmas, whereas normally we would go there for some of it at least. We've invited them for a day, not Christmas day, just so we can get together but no response. Not sure when I'll see them as a result.

Husband is eldest child, the other son has always been much more dependent on his mum, living at home for a long time and now has moved about 20 minutes away.

My husband is genuinely a bit hurt they are showing so little interest in us at this time, whereas im just a bit fed up and annoyed at it. We've been asked by his dad to think of Christmas present ideas - we suggested the start of a little library for our newborn. The next day we get an email forwarded to us from Amazon to him with "FYI - Happy Christmas" and the book arrived last night - not wrapped or anything.

Am I being overly precious? Or do I just need to accept maybe it's life changing for us but not that important to them?

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peachesforfree · 02/12/2019 11:35

Sounds like the absolute dream to me, lol.

Kinsters · 02/12/2019 12:05

I'd be a bit put out if I were you (and especially if I were your DH!). It's not nice when people act so uninterested and uncaring - even if each thing taken alone seems small it adds up to a bigger picture.

Nelbert19 · 02/12/2019 12:10

Aw that is hurtful, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect grandparents to be excited about their first grandchild. unfortunately they are not expressing their excitement in the way you were expecting which can be very disappointing (although I’m sure they are very pleased - maybe they think you want space or something?)

You could either ask you DH to talk to them and express that he’s feeling hurt, or work on lowering your own expectations to avoid repeated disappointment in the future

Sorry you’re not feeling very supported right now

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