Any suggestions?

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Hello all.

This is all new to me, but I have just found out I’m 5w pregnant.

Me and my partner said we would start trying at the beginning of next year, but somehow it’s happening now.

I am shocked, we only had sex once during that cycle, and it was a week after my ovulation date and I have pcos so i really didn’t think it would of happened given all those factors.

Anyway, I’m really excited and I know him and my family will be too as they all think we are ready now.

BUT... I would love to make this a Christmas surprise for them all that i would reveal on Xmas day, including my partner.

I’d love to have an early scan, get pics, frame then and give them as gifts. But is it really bad that I book a private scan and see my baby for the first time without my partner? (Would still do the 12wk nhs scan with him)
As I would love him to unwrap the pic on Xmas morning.

Is that selfish of me?
Is there any other exciting ways to reveal to my news on Xmas day?

Also, how do I get through 3 Xmas parties before Xmas without anyone clocking on that I’m not drinking?
(I’m a massive social drinker so this would definitely raise eyebrows if I turned down a drink)

Last thing....how do you cope with the constant tiredness? Im scared I’m going to fall asleep at my desk tomorrow. I can’t do anything as I just want to sleep 😩

Sorry for all the questions, but I’m nervous, excited and emotional all at the same time xx

Hi lovely! Congratulations on the big news
I love hearing of success stories of ladies who have PCOS.

I don’t think it’s selfish to have a scan but hard to predict how your partner would take it?

When I first found I was pregnant I had loads of social gatherings and I just had soft drinks and told people it had spirits in? OR as it is xmas party season if anyone asks say you’re taking it easy as you’ve had a rough night previously (Xmas parties are any nights of the week right)

Hope your pregnancy goes smoothly!

I wouldn't go to the scan alone. I was almost going to do that and DH ended up coming along. Turns out we had bad news at the scan and I think DH would have been well pissed if he hadn't have had the opportunity to be present for that.

In regards to partner I do think it's a bit bad having a scan without him so... Why don't you get him an early Christmas gift, wrap up your pregnancy test, with the app card from the scan place and maybe a little pair of mitts or something similar maybe something with daddy on? Give it to him the day of the scan if you can it would be a lovely surprise... Then just do what you wanted to do With the scan picture for everyone else.. I just personally think he should be there to see your baby for the first time..
Drinking part why don't you just get your own drinks and get lemonade instead of gin/vodka etc depends what you drink I suppose or say your on antibiotics for Something so can't drink... And I'm afraid the exhaustion//tiredness is here to stay for at least your first trimester hopefully by your 2nd it would of worn off x

You don't know that it will be good news at the scan so I wouldn't rob him of having the choice of whether or not to be there.

As for the tiredness, you really do just have to suck it up and get on with it. Pregnancy ain't easy and this is just the start

Thank you, now you put it like that, I would want him there, for the good and the bad, he deserves to be there with me as it is ‘our child’
I’m going to try and see if I can get a weekend private early scan as all the ones I’ve seen locally are on weekdays and we both cannot have time off in December in our jobs.

Yes I think I will be getting my own drinks, and any that is got for me, i will just get rid discreetly (open bars so no financial
Cost to an individual person)

And I just hope the tiredness subsided soon, I’m literally like a zombie. Xx

Hi OP,

Massive congrats on the news of your pregnancy.

You could always say you have a water infection and GP has put you on antibiotics so no drinking that was you won't need to turn anyone down if they offer to buy a drink. - take to extreme and pop your folic acid tablets into a pill box.

With regards to private scan some open late nights also, my local one is open till 8pm, another idea I've seen that would be quite cute would be gather everyone together for a Christmas photo and either set record or timer depending on if you want picture or video and then say " everyone say name is pregnant/ having a baby" would be a brilliant picture to look back on.

Try to rest when you can and good luck with your reveal x