Dreading telling people I'm pregnant

[DontCallMeDaisy]

I'm 13 weeks and going to have to tell people soon. DP and I are so happy I am pregnant, we are ridiculously excited. But there are so many people we need to tread carefully with and it's making me very anxious.

DD who is 8 is not going to take it well we don't think. She loves being an only child and having undivided attention off me, DP and exH, especially me. Shes also quite an anxious, emotional child.

ExH, who we are on good terms with (separated when DD was 1) will be upset I think. He's on his own at the moment, has always wanted another child and will worry about DD.

My parents will be concerned as last year I had mental health and financial problems. I also work for my dad and he'll immediately be concerned about that.

My best friend since I was 5 has had horrible fertility issues. She's currently very depressed and recently I've been her shoulder to cry on. She's also been devastated when another friend announced a pregnancy.

DPs sister is also in a similar situation to my BFF although not as far along.

I just wish we could keep it to ourselves and continue being happy about it but soon it will be impossible.

Anyone been in similar positions or have any advice?

My situation was similar, although my DD is only 1 and no exH. Although i was my mums only child and my dad has 3 more kids that werent born til i was 7, 9 and 12 y/o, it was a bit of a shock at first and i was a super emotional child but i did get used to it, children are sooo adaptable and resilient. When the eldest were 5&6 i used to play lego with them and read their bed time stories, which i did enjoy. They really looked up to me which was nice.

I work for my dad and was petrified of telling him. In fact i told him over the phone and the first thing he said was 'thats good news isnt it??' Because i was crying. It really wasnt as bad as id built it up.

I also have a dear friend whos DD is very poorly and will be having ivf for her next. I was so scared to say because ive been there for here when noone else has. She was actually very excited for us and said some lovely things. Its really not your fault that shes in a tough situation and i think theres a way to go about it without making them upset. Maybe send her a message so she has her own time to process it and not face to face.

Congratulations by the way, youre allowed to be happy 😊

In a similar situation. I'm excited to tell my family as they'll be very happy but am dreading telling my best friend and other close friends. We have a tight knit group of people and we hang out a lot, go out for dinners and parties a lot and I know they're not going to like the dynamics changing. I'm expecting people to be "happy" for me and then probably not make any effort to hang out with me (and baby) at all.