Pregnant and breastfeeding 1 year old, how to wean

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Hi,

I have a 1 year old who is very much a boobie baby. I've gradually reduced the day feeds, but finding it difficult to wean him off night feeds. My body just can't take it.

Any advice, please?

Can your DP help? I found i couldnt gradually wean mine at night and had to just replace one 'crutch' for another in the short term. Does your LO have a dummy? Do they always fall asleep feeding at the moment?

@Singsongbird DP no help. DS doesn't take a dummy... Has always fed to sleep... I'm stuck.

Bump

Oh that’s hard. How far along? Lots of people find their milk stops around the 3 or 4 month mark - much easier to wean when there is no milk.
Have you read Jay Gordon’s method for night weaning?

My own experience is that you need to reduce your night feeds first because if you drop the day feeds baby just feeds more overnight to compensate.
What’s your sleeping arrangement? We coslept & once pregnant I put toddler next to husband rather than me - can’t smell mummy/milk.

I was in the same boat as you with my little boy. He was bf to sleep until he was about 17 months.. day feeds stopped at about 11 months. This is how we cracked it -
1 week of my mum putting him to sleep in his cot with no feeds the first time he was put down at 7:30pm. There was crying but he did eventually go to sleep. I still fed him during the night. Then about a week later I stopped the night feeds. The first night I remember being up for about 4 hours and he was just crying. We had a bad couple of nights and then bam, we cracked it and he started sleeping through! I was never a supporter of controlled crying as I felt it was completely unnecessary, but then I realised how important it was for my son to start sleeping and learning to self soothe and he was SO much happier!!!
I think you just have to accept you're in for a bad few nights, it will get worse before it gets better.... but it's for the best and it will get better! If you need support or someone to rant to whilst you go through this I'm here 💗 I'm 17 weeks pregnant now and I know how important sleep is!!!