Who plans a gender reveal??

[mumofone2818]

I have always wondered this and have decided to ask you wise mumnetters!

I have a DD but found out she was a girl at our scan as didnt know I was pregnant until 5 months!

So who plans a baby reveal party? Who out the family/friends knows and plans what colour for the balloons/confetti etc to be? Do the parent already know and plan themselves?

Everyone always seems so surprised I would love to hear stories on them!

Just have a party. Gender reveal parties are beyond naff.

Honestly just tell people if you want to. Nobody cares as much as you do what sex your baby is.

It's normally a friend or relative who knows, or just get the sex written down on a folded sheet of paper and can give it to whatever place you're planning on having it (cake/balloons etc) and they then do it for it!

No one, they’re awful

I agree with other players that they're naff. Also very few sonographers will write down the gender so either you or your partner at least will have to know, so the 'big reveal' at the party can't be a surprise for both of you.

If you're in the US people get excited about this kind of thing so apparently you can get the person doing the ultrasound to write down the baby's sex in a sealed envelope, and not tell you directly. You then take it away and give it to a baker who will make you a cake which is dyed pink or blue inside and iced neutrally so that you only discover the colour when you cut into it.

If you're anywhere else in the world a scan is a medical diagnostic event, not a party, and they would look at you gone out if you asked them to write down the sex on a little piece of paper and not tell you. So in the UK people do it as a surprise for the guests, but not themselves.

Possibly those private scan places at Mothercare etc would do the "gender scan" and tell you in a piece of paper, if you really want.

Apparently the woman who invented the concept is a bit embarrassed by it now and wishes she never had :o

Nobody cares. Why would they?
Plus Baby showers are boring enough never mind gender reveal.

Aw I think they are a lovely idea especially if it's your first baby or last baby.
I had one via a cake, sonographer wrote down gender in an envelope and then we handed to cake makers so had no idea and then sponge inside was either blue or pink.
It was a lovely day

@BertieBotts
I am from UK, it was a surprise for myself, partner and guests I had no idea until I cut the cake and I had a sonographer from NHS write it down with no issues in fact she asked before hand so I think it's more common here than people may imagine.

Nobody cares. Why would they?

Of course close family and friends care!!

Hi OP, we paid for a private scan and OHs mum came with us. The sonographer told her the sex after we had left and then she planned it for us. She had a balloon with blue confetti and in the conservatory had decorated with blue cakes and ribbons etc! Loads of our family came and it was really really lovely!

The hospital we are at wont write down the gender or tell anyone apart from the person having the scan

So ive booked in for a private scan as i really wanted to a gender reveal, i know people think these are naff but if you want one then go for it.

Private scans will usually write it down for you and i can find out earlier than waiting for my 20 week scan. The scan place im going to provide the gender reveal balloon/confetti shooter so it will be a supprise for both us and our families

It is horribly naff. I have always avoided these things.

Attention seekers have them. Honestly what a load of bollocks. Its a 50/50 result, why the need for an entire party? If you want the surprise so much then wait till the birth. I literally would not go on principal to something like this. Wankery at its best.

My 20 week scan appointment letter explicitly said that the sonographer wouldn't write down the sex. I find it quite depressing that it had come up often enough for them to do that.

It's the parents who know and are revealing it to friends and family. Never heard if someone else revealing it to the parents- that's weird. Just an excuse to have a party I guess.

Me and my husband found out at the scan and we had a gender reveal party to announce to all our family and friends together it was amazing we absolutely loved it and so did our guests, it's a very personal thing some people like them some think they're pointless so do what you want x

I think it's a nice idea, really it's just a party with a bit of excitement/celebration added. I don't know why everyone thinks they're naff, especially as baby showers are so common nowadays.

You know yourself and family/friends so can make it as over the top or casual as you like. I didn't do a reveal party myself but I'd jump at the chance to go to one!

If I was doing one myself I'd have asked my dr to write the sex on a piece of paper in an envelope and then I'd have passed that to a baker or whoever to make the reveal thing. I have heard some NHS trusts won't do the sex in an envelope thing so if that was the case for you I guess you'd either find out at the NHS scan and plan a surprise for your family/friends or have a private scan where I'm sure they'd put the sex in an envelope for you so it was a surprise for you on the day as well.

Totally crass

Bloody awful and attention-seeking. Nobody but you and maybe the grandparents really cares.

Just have a party. No need for lame excuses.

We had one and it was a great day not naff or attention seeking at all me and my partner planned it when we found out the gender we put on a big spread for everyone . And we had bought cannon's with pink Confetti' which our sons let off which was special for them .
We also got a cake with pink sponge inside and had games ect we just invited family and a few friends .

I dont get it either OP, I am obviously delighted for any friends and family that get pregnant, have a baby but whether they are having a girl or a boy is of no relevance to me. Tbf I felt exactly the same with my own babies, healthy yep, sex whatever

No one should because they're shit.

Just send a text when you give birth like normal people.

I think its part of Instagram culture where everyone is 'curating' their lives for a social media audience.

I have never been invited to one as all my friends are normal non-attention seeking.

A distant cousin poste a social media clip of his mum getting a balloon which burst and pink confetti drifted out. But it was very low key and the mum was wearing pjs in it and looking a mess. It was just a 'fun' way to tell her whether she was having a grandson or grand daughter. The guy in question is big on attention to detail and social media.

A couple of my friends had them. Beforehand I was cringing a bit about it but at the end of the day it was a party with all my friends (fun!) and it made them happy (which I like!) so it wasn't that big a deal.

But then I'm not as much of a grumpy fucker as most mumsnetters, it seems.