So anxious about 20 week scan and not feeling flutters or kicks

[loveyourself87]

I'm 17+5 weeks and have still not felt any flutters, had or any of the description that first time mums give about baby movements. What makes things worse is every email I have received from bounty, Emma's diary etc say 'you should feel your baby's movement by now' but on other pages it says anything from 18-24 weeks! I have my 20 week scan end of December and I'm scaring myself with stories from Tommy's website about babies not making it past 24 weeks and stillbirths. I'm in bits and so anxious and scared.
I can't afford a private scan at the moment so not an option for me, really worried! Anyone have any advice to calm me the hell down? X

I didn't feel first movements until 23 weeks. My bump appeared visibly around 15-16 weeks. Everyone is different so don't compare your bump!

Im currently 17 weeks. Due may 11th. I also havnt felt anything yet. I also dont have a bump. I feel bloated quite alot though.

Im not too worried just yet, heard babys heart beat thursday which was lovely. I have my 20 weeks scan Christmas eve, so im hoping some feelings, signs and bump becomes noticeable in the next couple weeks. Im sure you’ll be fine too. First pregnancy’s apparently do take a little while longer to move along x

@Niki93 thank you, I'm a bit further along than you and would be relieved if I could hear the heart beat but so long between my 12 week scan and 20 week which is in 2 weeks x

@loveyourself87 you probably have experienced some movement but maybe not noticed. As much as pregnancy is exciting, its also so stressful not knowing. So i know how you feel being abit anxious. Im sure you’ll be fine. Relax, have some hot baths/moments to relax and you might notice some changes before your scan! Not too long now xx

I didn't get kicks til 28 weeks so don't worry!! X