why do some people think that anyone thay says anything positive about pg cb bf etc is trying to be competative

[pregnantbabyelephant]

why is it almost seen as bad to say anything positive about your experience of
either getting pregnant
pregnancy
childbirth
babies
child behaviour

why if a mum says anything like
i did really well in labour i didnt need any pain relief in a matter of fact way
do people think shes acting like its a competion

or that for EXAMPLE
they got pg really quickly
they had an easy pregnancy
coped great in childbirth
find breastfeeding easy
baby sleeps though the night
child does well at school

obv all these things have not i repeat not happened to me
i wish !

however i have noticed that anytime some feels they have done something well for example had a good birth/no pain relief etc

or i felt great during pregnancy

do others say its not a competion
it like they cant talk honestly about there experience

and what should some one with a v bright child do when that child exceeds at school not say so incase they offend anyone ?

oregonian i agree
sometimes i think all people wanna do is focus on the negative and wallow in selfpity and whoa betide anyone that wants to be happy

hmm not sure about the pnd link. I probably had a mild version of it and it was certainly exacerbated by my nct class going on and on about how their babies slept so well. I was so much happier when I made friends with some mums with poor sleepers and we could commiserate with each other and moan and laugh about it. All the antenatal group did was look down on me cos I wasn't following a famous book led routine.

I have always found when you are having a bad day talking about it with someone who has been there (or worse) always helps. Its puts it into perspective and makes you feel you aren't the worst mum ever.