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Pregnant and don't know what to do

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Winamy192 · 27/11/2019 10:40

I've recently come out of a long term relationship and then got back in touch with my first bf from high school, we hit it off and decided to give things a go, fast forward a few weeks and I've found out I'm pregnant. There's no issue financially but we have only been together a few weeks and I just feel it's so soon to throw this into the mix...

He already has 2 children from previous relationships he is fighting for access to I have none.

This is just never a situation I wanted and I've always been so careful I seem to have been swept away and not given anything a second thought this time.

He knows and is happy to support whatever decision I make although I know if it was his choice we would have the baby.

I just don't know what to do, on the one hand I think would it be selfish of me to consider or have an abortion just because the timing and situation doesn't suit me as I always wanted to ideally be married or at least in a stable long term relationship first. The other side of me thinks that I do want children and what if this is is potentially my only chance. I just always thought if I was going to have a baby I wanted to give it the best life I could and I don't feel in a position for that especially given the amount of time I've been with the father.....help!

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Boymummy3 · 27/11/2019 10:49

Personally I don't think the time you have been with him matters and unfortunately life doesn't always happen the way we wish it would.. I have 2 children and number 3 on the way my eldest has a different dad and I hate that but I'd never change anything its just the way things happen and my dh is an amazing step dad to him.

You want a baby and you have a supportive partner who is happy for you to go ahead and have the baby. If you are worried what people may think concerning the amount of time you have been together then don't let it bother you as long as you are happy then that's all that matters x

Wildorchidz · 27/11/2019 10:52

He already has 2 children from previous relationships he is fighting for access to

Regardless of the access issue, is he paying maintenance for those children?

Winamy192 · 27/11/2019 10:56

Yes he is paying maintenance for those children

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Winamy192 · 27/11/2019 10:59

It's quite a scary thought too, and I suppose it's my own fault as I just assumed it wouldn't happen, silly of me I know! He is supportive and I'm 29 would be 30 by the time it's born I have a good job own place so wouldn't be the end of the world I just wanted to do things 'properly' and not only that but for us to enjoy each other and have our own relationship before adding children.... I'm just backwards and forwards at the minute!

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