Just found out Im pregnant... in 2nd year of uni

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Hi everybody, I hope this is the right place to post this!
To cut a long story short, I'm 22, halfway through my second year of an engineering degree, and I've just discovered I'm pregnant.
Currently all I feel is disbelief and shock, I dont know where to start or what to do! The father, who is a few years younger than me, is in the same class and degree. It was just a casual fling based purely on physical attraction and now I'm pregnant I have no doubts he would absolutely freak out and be totally unsupportive.
I still live at home and commute into university, however I have been entirely independent otherwise (including financially) since I was 17. I'm no stranger to being broke and doing hard dirty work, but still the prospect of having a baby is totally overwhelming. All I keep thinking is how important it is for me to get my degree, and guilt at possibly forcing someone even younger into fatherhood...
Any and all advice would be so appreciated. Anybody been in a similar situation? I'm feeling a bit lost

I was in my first year when I found out I was pregnant. I’d been with DD’s DF for less than 3 months. We spent months deciding what to do before agreeing to keep her. Now she is nearly 6, I’m married to her DF and trying for another baby.

I deferred my year at uni and continued from my second year a year later than I was meant to. It was bloody hard work but I managed it. DH has one year left until graduating so managed to finish his degree after DD was born.

First of all, if you have the baby, you aren't forcing this guy into fatherhood. He is every bit as responsible for this pregnancy as you are.

If I were you, given all the circumstances involved, I would have a termination. Only you can make this decision.

How do you feel about the thought of an abortion op?

@Aquamarine1029 I suppose youre right about that.
@BeingATwatItsABingThing thats amazing, Im glad everything worked out for you!
@SleepingStandingUp I've been thinking about that today and I'm just not sure.... I guess because it still hasn't hit me properly yet. I have nothing against abortion, I just worry about the regret. Maybe I'll speak to some others about it and see my feelings then when its more real

If you do decide to keep it (if that’s the right decision for you), it’s not as impossible as it seems.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

I would also suggest you contact your local sexual health clinic and / or a helpline (I'm afraid I don't know any off the top of my head) to discuss and present you your options? Perhaps your university has a counselling service you could use?
Just so can get some independent guidance and support as well to help you make a decision.

It's hard to wrap your head around a pregnancy, expected or unexpected!