Relationship

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Would you put up with the father of your baby doing Naked Butler gigs every weekend?

Are you in a relationship with this guy? If you are then personally I would or asked him to stop Doing that when we got together if your not then nothing really you can do about it x

@Boymummy3 thanks for replying - at the moment we're not in a relationship due to issues like this, however even when we were together he would refuse to stop them. He's trying to get us back together and one of my conditions is to stop butlering but he said no...

I wouldn’t like it if I was in a relationship with him but it kind of depends if he was already doing it when you met and got together. If he’s always been doing it then I think it’s hard to say it’s not ok now.
I’ve been at hen parties where there are butlers in the buff and yes they’re charming (and mostly) naked but I wouldn’t say I’ve experienced them giving anyone the idea that they are anything more than a paid performer.

What are his reasons for not wanting to stop?

@user1493413286 he says it's just for money & he's out making money for our baby which I totally understand however he drives hours to these things which basically means he's using his wage on fuel.
I personally think it's an ego thing as he loves the attention.

I think the most important thing is that you don’t like it; there could be lots of people who wouldn’t care but if you aren’t happy with it you’ll struggle to move forward. I doubt it’s great for a developing relationship if he’s doing that on weekend evenings and driving for ages there and back

@user1493413286 thanks for your reply.

At the start of our relationship it didn't bother me however he always said if it did he would stop. When I fell pregnant it started to bug me, especially as I was home alone all the time knowing he's out butlering then when I mentioned it he's all of a sudden refusing to stop. I mean there's a lot more with our relationship than this but I just wanted to get some other opinions incase I was being too stubborn.

I don't think I'd like it at all, particularly when I am pregnant and feeling not great about myself. That being said if you can trust him, and it is just about money and you are strong enough to put it out of your mind then maybe it would be okay? Realistically, does he have any qualifications or experience that mean he could get a similarly paying job? If not then maybe he is a bit scared to give up.