Relationship problems

[xxxbabyno1]

I am 39 weeks pregnant, trying everything to get this baby out with no luck!

I split with the babies father when I was around 13 weeks, he moved out leaving me with all the bills (I ended up moving back home) & spent his time partying, posting pictures & videos with females knowing I would see it etc, I've received barely any help on the money front while getting ready for the baby. He's basically made my pregnancy a living hell, I've been in & out of hospital with high blood pressure due to his impact on me.

Anyway, I've recently gotten my own home, I'm settled & ready for baby to make an appearance...baby dad has been trying to worm his way back, spending nights 'incase I pop' so as much as I resent him I've been enjoying the company. Although he spends most of the time staring at his phone.

He has recently stopped spending time saying 'he's busy with work' & I found out he was out until 5am with his friends apparently not drinking even though I'm 4 days from my due date. But he fully expects to be involved when I go into labour & to spend his 2 weeks paternity in my home with me & his son.
Would you put up with this or am I being totally mugged off?

I don't feel like I love him anymore but I'm scared of getting attached when we feel like a family for a short time.

I went through something similar I split up with my husband and kicked him out he started going out every weekend drinking and doing drugs I will not allow anyone near my son if they are on drugs be it his dad or his auntie I laid down the law and totally blocked him on everything he could contact me through his sister if wanted but it did the trick and hes no longer going out and trying to make it work, i think some tough love is needed xx

Why are you even entertaining his presence back in your life, kick the playboy out and don't have him back. He is a knob and a total waste of space.
Is he caring for you and your baby....no.

1. If he cared he would put his hand in his pocket and not go out until 5am. He clearly has money he could give you, just other priorities.

1. You’ve said yourself he’s made your pregnancy a living hell so do you really went his company? What’s worse is he couldn’t be bothered with you when you needed it - seems very much on his terms...

If it were me I’d start as I mean to go on, take
some control back and have him around on his paternity as your son needs a relationship with his father but it would be on my terms.

Oh god your being a mug. He has shown you who he is. Please seek other support and don’t allow your poor DC to be subjected to this awful relationship. He has made to it pregnancy awful and you have had health concerns please cut him off. He likely sees your new circumstances as a way to sort himself out and making you a mug in the process

He has zero rights to be with you at the birth or being in your home Why are you even considering this? Why would you want a scumbag like him being with you at a very important time in your life

Sounds like he’s using you for your company and the comfort of your home. I think you are better keeping him at arm’s length especially if he’s got money to spend on night out but isn’t giving you financial support. I would say no to him being there when you’re in labour and let him come and visit the baby but not stay with you.