Handhold needed - pregnant at 44

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Hello, I need a handhold. I have 2 children (5 and 6) and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant having just turned 44. I most definitely was not trying, and if this sticks it will be amazing, but after a miscarriage nearly 3 years ago I truly thought I was done. I know the chances of this one not working out are very high, and have complications around diabetes and high bp. I most definitely feel middle-aged. On the one hand I feel terrible feeling anything but happiness when so many people would dearly love to be in my position, but on the other hand I am scared of what will come next either way. I was an older mum when I had my children (38 and 39) but this feels a different order of things and everywhere I look I see frightening statistics.

First things first... Try and relax and please stop looking at google/reading statistics. They don't apply to everyone. Yes with older mums etc they are more of a high risk but this doesn't mean something will go wrong and no one judges you for feeling the way you do and not everyone jumps for joy when getting pregnant trying or not.
It may be worth booking in with a midwife or your gp and speak about your concerns to see if that eases your mind x

I had ds at 43. He is a very lively and healthy 5 yo. Uneventful pregnancy..

Thank you both. I’m going to have to see the GP ASAP anyway because I will need to change my blood pressure medication now. I’ve calmed down a bit and am going to try to take things one day at a time.