Home birth for first child?

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I’ve been reading this thread and it’s completely freaked me out:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3750574-to-still-be-pissed-off-how-i-and-so-many-other-women-are-treated-before-after-birth

Giving birth in hospital sounds utterly horrendous!

I’m now wondering whether a home birth is the way to go - surrounded by the comfort of your own things, with a lovely private bedroom and bathroom. It sounds so much more relaxing.

On the other hand I worry what will happen if there are complications or things go wrong.

I’m mid-30s and it’ll be my first child. What do you think?

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat I’ll agree with that too.
I also knew my midwives beforehand, as they were ones I’d seen for community clinic appointments during the pregnancies. In fact, I had the same midwife attend both home births nearly 3 years apart - she arrived for the second home birth and said “well, we know what we are doing by now don’t we?”, and just sat and chilled in my living room, played with my 3yo, and just let me get on with things until I felt like I needed her.
It was all very much on my terms. It was as if the midwives were more inclined to play by my rules (as long as everything was progressing normally) considering they were guests in my home - and that made it all feel very relaxed.

The only thing that makes me really twitchy is potentially waiting for an ambulance for hours, once decisive to transfer in is made. You just can’t predict it.

If it's not an emergency, you don't need an ambulance to transfer in. I went by car - my partner drove, obviously.

When I had baby no2 I considered home birth but then it was id twins so csection was needed.

Recently I sadly had to read about a baby death that went to inquest (part of my current job) where a straight forward homebirth went wrong. If mum has been in hospital she'd be holding her baby rather V than burying him. They are lovely when it goes to plan but far too high risk imo.

There are plenty (more) of sad stories of babies born in hospitals who would still be alive only if XYZ had been done .... let’s not use this as a reason to blame mothers for the death of their babies.