Feeling down - is it a phase?

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I’m thrilled to be pregnant and cannot wait to have a baby but right now I am so down

I’m only 24 weeks and I know I have so much further to go and it’s all going to get worse until the baby arrives which makes me feel so shit

I don’t want to tell anyone because I feel like it’s so ungrateful and they just say “oh it will be worth it” yes but what do I do now? And what if we don’t bond right away and I don’t feel it was worth it?

I have really bad pelvic pain and can’t walk far anymore which is getting me down as I’m normally quite active. Can’t sit on the sofa comfortably either which is just annoying. Also had rhinitis throughout. Have MW appt next week so will discuss then and hopefully have some help with the pelvic pain

I also hate that I don’t feel like me anymore. I can’t wear clothes I want to anymore because 1. They would look ridiculous on a pregnant woman 2. I can’t afford new maternity wear and so I have second hand floaty dresses and leggings. My skin is shit as I have hormone related eczema and it’s dryer than the Sahara.

I just wish I could drown my sorrows in a glass of wine and I can’t 😔 I know it’s pathetic and I know people have much more terrible pregnancies. I think I’m just really dreading what is to come and not happy about spending another trimester indoors constantly (morning sickness constantly through the first)

Am I being normal? Is this just a phase?

Normal, I'm so sorry. Being pregnant sucks and yeah it gets worse until the baby cones out. I wish I had better news for you.

On the other hand, babies are great!

Thanks @Notsurehowtofixit, reassuring to know it is normal. Just wish I could hibernate the next 3 months 😂

I think it’s normal as I feel the same. I’m 28 weeks and had enough of being pregnant. I can’t wait to get my body back, sleep comfortably and have a drink, wish I could make time go faster!

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, it's awful not being able to get comfortable! I get eczema quite a bit and find (apart from the steroid creams which I don't know about in pregnancy) the best thing for it is Epiderm ointment. I don't love the smell but it does seem to help - I use it like a moisturiser / barrier cream.

Please don't ever apologise for moaning during pregnancy! I know some women have it worse but I tell you now pregnancy is not easy at all and it is emotionally draining for everyone. When I was around 25 weeks I had a total break down started crying randomly and couldn't stop I was so exhausted, fed up and just wished I was alot further along so baby would be coming soon as. Its totally normal to feel the way you do and I promise it does get better.. I'm 30 weeks now (31 wk tomorrow) and I feel I'm finally on the home stretch. Give yourself things to look forward too. Make plans to see friends/family even if they come to you. Don't isolate yourself if at all possible but at the same time relax as much as possible. Try and take time for yourself, x

Thank you so much for your replies! I feel so reassured knowing this is normal! I just feel like I have to pretend everything is fine and I’m glad to hear others agree they aren’t!

@Boymummy3 I am glad to hear there is some light when you feel on the home stretch!! I will ensure I don’t isolate myself, thank you

I wish there could be a lovely island where pregnant ladies can go and have magic pain killers and magic wine. Lay in the sun and have make overs everyday and have everyone tell you, you are an amazing woman instead of just asking about the baby