Feeling lonely - help!

[PongoApollo1991]

Hi everyone. This is my first time posting something on here, so sorry if it's a bit all over the place! I'm 28 weeks pregnant and just feeling so lonely and overwhelmed, I was hoping for a bit of advice, or to hear that I'm not completely alone and going crazy!

I am overjoyed with our baby on the way, me and my hubby have tried for years for our little one and he is finally on his way! I can't help feeling so lonely though -
my husband works a lot and I feel like I never see him, when he is home he always either is tired or asleep or playing on his Playstation or phone and doesn't seem to show much of an interest in me or baby. I get little sympathy or attention, I have to physically put his hand on my tummy so he can feel baby kicking and even then, he shows little to no excitement or reaction. He says he is excited and can't wait for baby to be here, but he doesn't seem to show it. I feel like I'm in this alone and worry how supportive he will be when our little one arrives.

Sometimes I honestly think he doesn't believe or care that I'm pregnant and will only realise we are having a baby when baby is actually here!

Does anyone else feel this way with their other half? I didn't realise how lonely pregnancy could feel!

The saying is that women become mothers at the first positive test. Men don't become fathers until the birth. It's fairly normal for a bloke to not really know got to feel/ show interest because they don't have the reminders of kicks, body changes, constant stream of advice from all and sundry...

Tell him what you want or need from him. And let him know how you're feeling. Pregnancy (and motherhood) are quite isolating experiences, in my experience... it's just the way it is.

And bin the PlayStation. He's a grown man.

Hi, just wanted to say you're definitely not alone - I'm also 28 weeks and your post could have been written by me, the only difference is this is our second child.
When my Dh isn't at work he's either on his iPad with earphones in, at football with his mates or like tonight, at the pub with his mates. I don't seem to get any consideration - even yesterday after being at work all day, I still had to come in and cook and clear up even though he'd been home for hours (and this is after having a scare a week ago and spending the afternoon in hospital). I get this general feeling that he thinks I'm just a drama queen if I'm tired or not feeling great.
It's a very lonely feeling.

Your definitely not alone. I think it's so easy for men to not have a bond as they can't feel every emotion and body change so it probably doesn't feel real until they are actually here.
Maybe just try telling him how you feel and hope that he changes to help you.
If you ever want to speak always message me I'm new to all of this I'm 17 weeks pregnant and it's so lonely!! X

DH never touched my bump unless I put his hands on it. We had had 3 miscarriages, then that successful pregnancy, which may have contributed to him being a bit more reserved about it. He is a wonderful, hands-on dad to our little girl now that she is here. He did his fair share of nappies and walking up and down bum patting in the evening, toddler wrangles like a pro and even voluntarily goes to soft play. My pregnancy was horribly stressful after everything that we had gone through to get there and it definitely made it worse to feel like I was a lone voice cheering our daughter on to make it, but we both had to get through the stress of it as best we can. I regret nothing now.

Thank you so much everyone. I cannot tell you how much better it has made me feel knowing I'm not the only one! (And not just being a demanding hormonal dragon!) What a lovely bunch of people you are 😊

It's so difficult and a stressful but exciting time; I think I need to be a bit more proactive and actually discuss how I'm feeling with hubby, rather than hiding away feeling like I'm being a hindrance!

Thank you all, again. I hope I can offer advise or support should anyone ever need or want it! Us mamas/mamas-to-be need to stick together! x