Handheld please..trigger warning..missed miscarriage

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Thank you for reading. Had a couple of very early miscarriages in the past. Then our lovely dd. Pregnant again, had a private scan at 8+2 all good. Just had 12 week scan today, they could find no heartbeat and they estimated the baby had died around the time of the earlier scan. It's a huge shock as we thought everything was fine. Especially as I really thought I could feel the first movements for the past week or so and still can. I'm guessing at 12 weeks if it was twins it would be pretty obvious? Two sonographers confirmed it. I'm just feeling so numb and sad. I've opted for medical management next week as it's already been 3 weeks and nothing's happened. Can anyone share their experiences of this of its not too painful? How long should I expect to be off work ( mental health aside?)

So sorry for your loss sweetheart, I had almost exactly the same and the waiting for something to happen is dreadful so medical management is the best option. It doesn't hurt at all (you'll be sedated v briefly) but your cervix will feel sore for a couple of days afterwards - ibuprofen will sort that. Physically I could have gone back to work after a few days, emotionally I wasn't ready but then got to a point where I needed distracting so work was useful. Look after yourselves xxx

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and for the reassurance. Sorry for your loss too

I'm so sorry for your loss

Thanks sweep

Almost the same story happened to me a few months ago. I had medical management. 'm not gonna lie, I was in agony it was just like labour for me. This was after the first tablets. I then went into hospital for the next lot which I had 4 lots of and wasn't painful at all but did take a while to work.

So sorry you are going through this. Take it easy and give yourself time to grieve.

Oh I'm so sorry. I had a missed miscarriage 8 years ago. I had it medically managed. The physical pain wasn't as bad as I anticipated, kind of like period cramps but I'm not going to lie, emotionally it was horrible. I can go into more detail if you want but I don't want to upset you any more. I was off work for 2 weeks. One week was because I had to have 2 scans a week apart to confirm what was happening, then I had a week off during/afterwards. Please PM me if I can help...even if it's just a hand hold by someone who's been there.

Missed miscarriage, found out at the 12 week scan, was my first pregnancy. Had a medical miscarriage a week later. Physically ok but I passed out multiple times (only time I've ever passed out in my life) but not painful more woozy and achy. Emotionaly hard but I got my rainbow baby after and had come to terms with it 'not meant to be'

Take the time to really wallow in the feelings, better to feel them all and be useless for a few days than to bury them and try to cope, sorry for your loss x

They have asked me to come in first thing in the morning one day next week and they've said if the pain is really bad or for any reason I can stay the night. One of my previous miscarriages was horrific, I was at home, in absolute agony and vomiting and they wouldn't let me have anything drug wise as the scan room was closed for the weekend so they couldn't be sure i was miscarrying. The pain was worse than labour and I'm so scared it will be similar

Sorry OP I've made a mistake, what I had is now called surgical management, as medical management tablets weren't available then. Sorry to have advised you wrongly x

Very sorry you’re going through this. I had similar, but without seeing heartbeat at 8 weeks, that’s very sad.

I did find it v physically painful, much more so than early spontaneous mcs, labour pains, and sadly it was ‘incomplete’ so ended up having to have ERPC procedure in addition 😨 I attended hospital when pains didn’t stop and had good care. Hope it’s over physically soon. Take care.

I was told if the pain is unbearable to go back in and they can give you gas and air and I'm sure even morphine. Oh with the first tablet I was given codine as well, the nurse said to take it religiously to keep on top of any pain which I obviously didn't.

That's ok peach...I did think they hadn't offered me sedation x

Exactly the same happened to me in May, the baby measured 8+4 at my 12 week scan. I had surgery the next day, the pain was very manageable but the emotional side of it was/is terrible. I'm so so sorry that you're going through it too. I had a couple of therapy sessions recently and they did help. Sending all my love xxxx

I'm a bit worried. Guess I just need to know if it's kinda normal... My HCG levels were 761.5 on Monday and 917 on Friday. I don't have any cramps or spotting. Doc asked for another blood test on Sunday. I don't know what to expect. This is my second pregnancy, I don't have any of the symptoms I had with my first. Dr concern it might be a miscarriage. I'm not sure what to look out for 🥺

Hope you get good news Marcia.

I started bleeding naturally yesterday. No pain as yet just bad backache.

Sorry for your loss. I had two missed miscarriages in 2017. Medical management was a mistake for me, I didn’t realise how gory and painful it would be and I almost died. Surgical was far easier and swifter, I just wanted it all over and done with as quickly as possible but everyone’s obviously different.

They are cruel, it’s the belief that everything is ok then the shock when it isn’t. Be kind to yourself.

Hi, just thought I'd update everyone as you've all been so kind. I was meant to do in today for the medical management. The bleeding Sunday stayed steady until Monday evening, when it pretty suddenly became crazily heavy so I rushed to the hospital, the majority was passed in a couple of hours. There was little to no pain. I thought for sure I was haemorraging (sp?) but they said that amount of blood loss can be normal. They are pretty sure it was complete as there was so much blood and clotting. I stayed the night as my blood pressure was low and they released me at lunchtime today. Feeling very faint, weak and tired. Emotionally drained. Have decided to tell a select few people and they have all been amazing. Apart from a couple of minutes where I honestly thought I was going to die, physically it was ok. Love to you all.