Second time around and struggling. Anyone else?!

[Ginandgingers92]

Pregnant with my second and my gosh it's been an awful ride. Only 23 weeks and I'm not looking forward to things getting tougher over the next 17!
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I will start by saying that I am so thankful to be pregnant, and I hope this thread doesn't come across as whinging or taking things for granted, because I know how lucky I am to be in this position, but I wanted to see if anyone else out there is having a ride of it like me, so we can support each other* :) (added a star and it went bold?!)

My pregnancy story so far:

• HG until about 24 weeks, resulting in hospitalisation at 16 weeks.
• Nosebleeds.
• Migraines.
• Dizziness/fainting.
• Acne.
• Flaring up of my dermatitis.
• Back pain.
• 20 week scan showing soft markers for a genetic condition leading to amniocentesis (thankfully results for GCs was negative)
• My LO has club foot.
• LO is on 5th centile, meaning I need to be monitored for her growth/my placenta functioning. She may need to be delivered early, so no VBAC.
• This past week I've also started to get rashes on my neck and wrists!

Anyone else having a similar experience?

• HG until about 21 weeks, sorry.

Ahh - me too. Hugely. I’m also 23 weeks and frankly had quite enough! Although I’ve not had any worries with baby thankfully, that must be horrible

I also have HG, it’s improved these days but I feel sick 24/7 still and I’m expecting too my whole pregnancy. The earlier weeks were a huge battle mentally trying to be a mum to a two year old while feeling mostly like I was dying. I’m really anaemic but iron tablets make me vomit. They are considering a transfusion, which freaks me out a bit! I’ve had a chest infection, asthma flare up that put me in hospital & currently battling what I assume is sinusitis as my face really hurts! Constant nosebleeds here too!

I miss being a good mum. I feel so useless and guilty not able to go out and enjoy life with my daughter before it’s no longer me & her. I’m so exhausted, I’m snappy & impatient and it’s so not like me. My poor babby has chicken pox at the mo as well & I hate being impatient when she’s poorly! Yet more guilt! And no sleep.

I just want to feel well again & have some energy! Christmas is usually such a happy time I look forwards too but I just don’t care this year Pregnancy makes me hate chocolate & anything sweet, sounds so silly but I miss the enjoyment of a nice chocolate bar when I’m tired or had a bad day! I get so sad walking past the Christmas things in the shops. I long for a nice biscuit but know it’s just make me feel sick ..

Anyway, moan over! We’ll get there! 17 weeks & counting.. we can do this!

Ginandgingers92 first of all congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry to hear you are having a rough time. Definitely sounds like you've been through it all, I'm sure as time goes on things will settle and get better so you can enjoy being pregnant again.

I am 25 weeks with a 19 month old who was born at 26 weeks, iv had a pretty rough pregnancy myself but I'm counting my lucky stars. I was being monitored every two weeks to make sure my cervix was not shortening, at 20 weeks found out it had shortened from 40mm to 28mm, not a huge worry but with my history of having a peek baby I was given the option to have a cervix cerclage which I had done immediately, it was one of the scariest things I have ever done but I am thankful I was able to do it in good time. I also have gestational diabetes which isn't great when all you want to eat is chocolate :(, my DS was unwell two weeks ago and in hospital for a chest infection for 5 days, with him being ex prem he gets unwell very quickly and ends up back in hospital, I'm not able to do much after having the cervical stitch and can't lift my toddler which is hard. I am counting down the days and hope I can reach full term with this baby.

I had a hard pregnancy with my first one and second one just as hard but like you said I am grateful to have the opportunity to have a baby and don't want to come across moany, good to have support through these threads and talk about our problems so we can help each other through it.

Wishing you all the best

Hi both 👋🏼 Thanks for posting.
My Son is 20 months old and I miss feeling like a good mum too! Feel so guilty :( took him to soft play today which I find stressful as it is haha, only for him them to have the world's biggest paddy (tiredness induced) followed by the world's shortest nap.
I'm currently sitting on the sofa, pretending I don't feel sick, itching my neck to high heaven whilst he plays. I wish I have the energy to be that Mum again that had something planned every day. I can't remember the last time I had a good sleep, thanks to acid reflux (forgot to add that to my list!!), and I'm either working 10 hour days or looking after my toddler.
Seriously struggling but I don't see a way around it so I just have to keep on keeping on I suppose.

@Salina2 I've never heard of a cervix circelage, so I just had to google. Goodness me, that must have been so stressful for you 😔

@Bol87 have you been given any anti sickness meds for the HG? X

I have @Ginandgingers92 - this is my second HG pregnancy so I knew the drill! Last time, I tried every drug going until we got to Ondanesteon which works a treat for me so long as I can keep it down long enough to kick in! This time, my GP put me straight on Ondanesteon at 6 weeks. I’ll probably be on it the whole 40 weeks. I’m lucky I’ve got a fantastic GP who has got me into hospital several times & really looked after me!

I hope you’ve been able to get help with if too! Get yourself a good antacid from your GP! I’m taking omeprazole & I no longer have heartburn. It’s incredible 😂

Sorry to hear of those with other difficult things going on, must be so worrying with cervical issues. I always appreciate that so far, despite me feeling horrific, my pregnancy is so far low risk!

I think healthy to have a moan, second pregnancy in and I don’t feel guilty about it, I just hate pregnancy but a needs must to get to be a mum I’m stopping at two though!

@Bol87 oh yes, we've already said that two is enough! I can't go through this anxiety again! My last pregnancy was an absolute breeze, even as far as sickness stopping bang on 12 weeks, so I guess I just thought I'd be lucky again!
I really feel for you. I have days of feeling sick intermittently again (I have cyclizine that I now just take when it kicks back in) and it's just so debilitating isn't it?

@Bol87 do you know what you're having? I've heard that girls tend to make us sicker because of the hormones, but that could be another load of old rubbish 😂

I’m really struggling with second time pregnancy but then I read all of your stories and realised I’m being a total wuss compared to what people do go through - these things sound really tough for you. Particularly health worries for the baby, that’s on another level.
I spent the first 13 weeks or so feeling so sick I didn’t know what to do with myself, being a terrible, lazy, sleepy mum to my 2 year old. Now the sickness has mostly gone (not completely) i’m left still feeling very tired, lazy, fed up, miserable, moany, resentful, bored, and my back has started hurting so I just want to rest it all the time.
Took my daughter to the park for the first time in 9 weeks today. Realised we havent done anything outdoors in all that time (she does outdoors things at nursery thankfully). Rubbish mum.
I resent my husband for the active and fun social life he continues to lead, when mine has ground to a total halt, as a result of me being half dead for weeks and now just bitter cos i feel like i have no friends left!!
All in all, I am not enjoying this pregnancy anywhere near as much as I enjoyed the first one. That felt very magical and special. This just feels like hard work.
Obviously I love my daughter more than life itself so it’s all worth it in the end (fingers crossed). It’s good to rant though, why not.

i've got 6 weeks to go. I'm so uncomfortable. as soon as i eat anything i'm so bloated i feel like i could explode. any attempt at housework etc results in pelvis and lower back aflame, I'm also uncomfortable sitting down, particularly whilst driving, and reclining,
and often lying down. my toddler who is really just being a toddler is getting on my last nerve as i basically cannot keep up with him, or do anything physical with him. my H has unexpectedly been away for 3 weeks and isn't back til tuesday at the earliest so i've got to entertain said toddler all bloody rainy weekend again - I'm probably going to strangle him when i see him (H not toddler). i don't even want to go on mat leave as all the manageable sitting down and using my brain in my day will be gone and i'll be at home doing the maid's work 😑😑 SO FED UP!

I am 38 weeks today and I cried when I looked at all the toys I had to tidy up before bed. I am leaving them there and going to sleep.
So so hard and I have a long way to go because I have long pregnancies.

@Autumntoowet i have started shamelessly bribing my son to clear up his toys himself 🤭 it bloody works though he'll do anything for about 6 mini marshmallows and i don't have to get down on the ground!

Ginandgingers92 I'm sure your doing as much as you can, don't feel guilty even though I totally understand and it's hard not to, I can lift my 19 month old, I can't do normal things like I use to like bath him which I use to love doing, I can't do to much physical activity which is so annoying because my DS is so active and loves to play. I feel like a bad mum most days but I have amazing support from my husband who fills in when he's back from work and plays with him until he is done playing. I keep telling myself it's only temporary and when baby is here I can go back to being a fun mum (hopefully if I have the energy, fingers crossed)... it's hard for now but this time will pass and when we have the babies I'm sure we will be able to enjoy them along with our toddlers. I hope your sickness gets better and everything else as the pregnancy progresses and comes to an end. We can do this!

@MerryDeath what makes things worse is that there was another mess of toys in his room and that is when I started crying. He said what is wrong mummy and I said I was very tired with the big belly and I had to clear up and tidy so I felt sad and tired and he said “don’t worry mummy I tidy and you will be fine”
“I give you cuddle and kiss”
😔😔😔😔
So of course then I was sobbing because he is amazing and I don’t want him to think he can’t play.
The mess downstairs still there and J can’t sleep

Morning all! Just woken up after a night of feeling boiling hot and subconsciously itching this delightful new rash, thus making it worse (and it's spread to my face, yay!), only to have a monumental nosebleed! Currently laying here hoping to get a few minutes chilling before toddler wakes up, full of beans!

Just read that PUPPP , the rash affects in in 150. Club foot affects 1 in 1,000. HG affects 1 in 200ish. I feel having got off so lightly last time, I am now the 1 in whatever for all these symptoms!

Heading to the pharmacy today for this bloomin' rash. I wouldn't mind so much if I felt fine but looked like shit, or felt shit but looked fine, but it's the looking AND feeling shit that's really taking the piss! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️😂

I'm sorry that other people are having a rough time of it too; hopefully we can be an ear to each other when we need to offload to other people who can understand!

@Autumntoowet, your little boy sounds like an absolute cutie

@Autumntoowet 😭💔 bless
him!!

@Ginandgingers92 i also have a bloody nose and a rash around my upper lip/nostril area!

How is everyone?
I've just recovered from a delightful pregnancy rash all over my stomach, neck and face. Finally back and work and thinking I'm back in the game, but it seems HG has reared it's ugly head again and I've been sick! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️