Feeling isolated

[susie12345]

I am pregnant for the first time, i am 5w+2 today. I feel really isolated because not many people know i am pregnant and i have so many questions. My partner isnt very supportive and stresses me out a bit. He is a good guu but i am so moody all the time.
I am finding it so hard not being able to talk about how i feel and what is going through my head.
Are there any new pregnant ladies on here who can share experiences and advice with me?
Thank you

Ask away please!
I am 26wks but felt the same... I don’t have many friends and have only one that has recently had a baby.

I did read somewhere on here that having a baby and joining all the baby groups is a great way to meet new people, so I’m holding out hope for that hah x

Hi thanks for your message. Well basically im just shitting myself with what can go wrong all the time and it makes me feel anxious which i know is not good. Im so scared of what the future holds as well.

Yes it’s so easy to get carried away panicking and worried about all of the possibilities... I did this too, particularly early on. I just told myself that if something bad happens I will deal with it then. Most people have successful pregnancies and healthy babies.

Try not to google too much unless you have a specific issue! I made the mistake of doing this and would be awake for hours in the in the early weeks and it did me no good!!

I second the not googling advice! I now just ask MumsNet if I have a specific question and generally get good advice.

I understand how you feel, I am 10 weeks today and haven't told anyone apart from my manager and my partner as I am worried something might happen.

Hopefully the anxiety lessens soon, but it gives me comfort knowing I have a community here for support who are going through the same thing (or have in the past).

I think my biggest worry at the moment is miscarriage, i feel so stressed and anxious and im scared about it so much, because i really want this baby. I think the first 12 weeks go so slow, is there anything i can do to stop worrying so much and actually enjoy the first 12 weeks or is this normal?

You could book a reassurance scan for 6-8 weeks . I did it at 8 weeks it was about £80 though and in hindsight now I probably should have just waited until the nhs one . However it was really reassuring for me to hear heartbeat and to know all was ok so far.

Also yes it is very very normal. You will already be planning things wondering what they will be like as exciting as it is it's also stressful as you think they are not even the size of a grape yet and no one even knows for you to talk to . Thrust me though those weeks fly and they soon the size of a melon and then your giving birth to your amazing baby. Try and do some things for you a bath if you like or podcasts to relax a little .

Trust rather not thrust

I am thinking about the private scan but i think i am most worried about there being something wrong with the baby which early scan probably wouldnt tell me, i mean things like disabilities etc. I know it sounds stupid but i am 36 and i think the risk is higher at my age. I just want a healthy baby and to carry it all the way to 40 weeks :( im being pathetic arent i

Not pathetic! You’re probably verbalising what a lot of us have just kept inside our heads!

Just keep thinking - you should only worry about the things you can change. These days seem long now, but they get quicker! X

I hope so, its just completely dragging. Im counting down the days until i am 12 weeks. I think it will get better after that, i just need to know if everything is ok. I never thought i would be like this, i always thought i would enjoy being pregnant. But right now its just constant worry :(