First trimester - scared to have sex

[MrsRose2018]

Hi

So I am currently 5 weeks pregnant, due in July. In August of this year me and my husband had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, 2 days after having sex for the first time since getting pregnant.

Now me and my husband are both terrified to ha sex. I am even sacred to... DIY it, if you know what I mean .

I have a high sex drive naturally but with the pregnancy hormones JESUS!!

Does anyone feel the same/have some advice? X

Congratulations!

It's completely natural to feel as you do what with the past but there shouldn't be any reason you can't go on to have a happy pregnancy.
I felt the complete same as you however so we talked about it and focused on other things like lots of cuddling and being close, without full on DTD. We agreed that once we got to the 12 week scan and if that was okay, we would try and see how we went. It's never been amazing in pregnancy, more so now because I feel like a whale 😂 but there are other things you can do.

Don't pressure yourself but it's worth remembering that on the whole, it's a safe thing to do and baby is completely protected as long as you haven't been advised otherwise by a DR or midwife. Just keep an open channel with your OH so you remain close and can support each other.
Wishing you all the best 😊

I'm in the 3rd trimester now and it's difficult to find a position where we can have sex comfortably! It's understandable that you're cautious. Usually if the doctor says there's no reason to avoid sex it should be ok though. And congratulations ☺️

@MrsRose2018 I'm 20 weeks, me and my partner used to average 3-4 times a week. At first I was anxious and I still just haven't regained any sex drive, so even now we only average once a week being intimate, which often doesn't end in actual intercourse. (As I just don't feel 'like it')

I completely understand where you're coming from and I suggest don't do it unless you feel comfortable and be open and honest with your partner.

Congratulations on your pregnancy. X

Congratulations on your pregnancy !

I know the feeling, exactly same as you started bleeding a day or two after sex and thought it was related. During the first trimester coudlnt bring myself to DTD until 7 weeks when I saw baby at a private scan but even then we didnt do it a great deal afterwards.
The chances that sex cause the miscarriage is very low, I suppose it just one of them things but do it when you feel ready 😊

Thank you all so much for your responses! I thought I was alone in this!

I’m really lucky that my husband is totally supportive and he feels as anxious as I do, so it’s not like he’s gagging for it and I’m not 😂.

I’m going for a reassurance scan at 8 weeks so maybe I’ll speak to the doctor then..

I guess being painful frustrated is worth it in the long run.. 😂

Xx