Here actually to give advice to other women searching for posts like this, like I was a few weeks ago.
First off, if you feel strongly that you do want an abortion, then this advice isn't for you.
I'm 38, with a WONDERFUL unexpected 3yo daughter. My husband never wanted kids when we met 10 years ago, but he is a really fantastic father.
I found out a few weeks ago that I was pregnant, and called my husband right away. He is away for work for weeks at a time.. he freaked out. "We can't do this right now, I'm the one working, not you. We were finally going to start getting our heads above water. This can't happen, I can't believe you're even considering this"
It was really very hard to hear, but I didn't take it personally, I know it was just his emotional reaction. He calmed down after 2 days and had a more kind tone, but still stood by his original position.
After 2 weeks of not talking (not mad, just didn't know what to say) he reached out to tell me he was feeling really depressed and couldn't snap out of it. I had to ask him if he had considered killing himself, he said no.
This weekend, I miscarried. I was 7 or 8 weeks. I had names picked out. I felt underwater before, like my pregnancy was surreal. I probably could have taken better care of myself, like I did with my first pregnancy.
I just needed to say that for other women in this position, all the anxiety that you're feeling: about your husband, about finances, how you'll manage another baby.. etc. They're nothing compared to the absolute soul sucking depression that I feel right now. Be strong and do your best to accept it and be happy. And take care, because the alternative is really awful.
When I was searching this topic, it did help me to read through so many other posts similar to my situation. And I did see one poster that said she had miscarried in the end, but it didn't really sink in. To have life, then.. not.