I don't want to be pregnant anymore!!

[Twinkie]

I know I know I sound like a complete witch but I have had enough of it - I am tired and sick and heavy and so need just to lie down and go to sleep.

I feel guilty for wanting it all over when I should be enjoying it and when so many people can't even get pregnant and I feel guilty towards DS wanting him out now when I know it is best for him to be in there!!

I know its rideculous but I just want to sit at home and cry until this is all over - I am even looking forward to the birth at the moment cause I know at least after that I won't be pregnant anymore!!

And just in case you don't want me DS is very much a wanted baby although not at all planned.

How do I get through these last 6 weeks without going completely mad??

Oh poor you. No useful advice i'm afraid but i do know how you feel and i'm sure loads of mums feel like that at some point too.

When i was pregnant with Ds i got to the point at about 32 weeks of just wanting it all over with. I was having loads of probs and just wanted him out so i could see for myself if he was o.k.

Reading what stage he was at in the womb did help a little bit as it made me realise he did need to be in there a bit longer.
Still bullied my consultant in to a delivery at 37 weeks though

6 weeks will fly by honestly. Before you know it you'll be puffing and panting away wishing you weren't in labour .

Is this your first baby Twinkie? I was like that at around 34 weeks. (((((Hugs)))))

Twinkie I haven't followed your pregnancy so don't know if there are any people around who could help you achieve your need to sleep but I think if you're that tired you should try to make it happen - sorry if I'm suggesting the impossible.
Are you still working? Can you get a couple of days off? Is it your first baby?

Twinkie {{{{hugs}}}}, I have days of feeling exactly like that! It's awful, but I am hoping perfectly normal. I feel guilty after spending an hour sobbing to dh that I want the baby out NOW, becuase if it did come early I'd think it was my fault etc. I feel like an ungrateful so and so when I tell people I'm not enjoying being pg and they look at me like I'm mad. I know I'm very fortunate to be able to have children, but I can't pretend it's a barrel of laughs 24/7 because it's not. It's uncomfortable and downright crappy some days.
My baby wasn't planned either, and most days I'd never change a thing, this is very much a wanted baby too, but sometimes it all gets too much. I am totally fed up of not being able to get comfy day or night, feeling moody, fat, heavy, ugly, tired, not to mention sick of moaning about it.
I'm of the "bring it on!" attitude towards birth too, thinking the sooner it starts, the sooner it's over with and I get to be a mummy. I don't know how to help you get through the next 6 weeks, save to say I've survived 3 more than you and am still (quite) sane
Mumsnet has been my biggest support cuz everyone is so honest about their feeling and I don't feel so guilty on here when I know others feel like I do. I have pg friends I can't talk to about this as they are loving every minute of their pregnancies. I've tried fishing to see if they are even slightly uncomfortable/miserab;e but they don't seemt o be...maybe they are secret Mumsnetters too.
Hang on in there, it WILL be over soon and we will be mummies not host organs
PS. Tea and choc digestives go a LONG way to making you feel better. Honest x

Twinkie - I'm afraid tis too late to change your mind! Have you tried yoga relaxation or meditation - there's a website www.learningmeditation.com with audio - if you don't feel too silly doing it - it can be beneficial. Hugs and good luck

Thanks All - no I have a DD who is 4 so not first pregnancy but his one seems so much harder on me and I have the crap with X2b too so can't leave work (solicitors bills to pay so am trying to stay as long as possible!!) or really relax into it all because I feel so horrid.

I come into the office about 3 days a week and they are very good but I just don't really have the energy to do anything when I am here and everything is getting to me at the moment to the extent that I nearly phoned a friend and ruined a 25 year friendship last night jsut cause I wanted someone to shout at (she had pissed me off though!!) and DP is being so good but I do feel at this moent in time like I want to curl up into a ball and make everything go away!!

Twinkie

DO NOT feel guilty about wanting this over, I did and realised when I spoke to some woman that they hated being pg every step of the way, I am convinced there are more woman out there who DONT enjoy the experience than do enjoy it. I am one of those and have been trying to have a baby for a long time so you can imagine when I discovered that being pg really was not much fun. I have four weeks left and so want this over and done with.

Don't beat yourself up over it, try and rest as much as you can cause lack of sleep can drive anyone mad. I am absolutely certain that when DB arrives it will all be worth it.

Twinkie, sweetheart, I absolutely hated being pregnant. I so understand how you feel. Big hugs xxxxxx

Hey Twinkie -I think it's partly because it's your second - being a beached whale loses its novelty the first time around.

The end of my second pregnancy was miserable as I had carpel tunnel syndrome in both hands - not much fun when you've got an active toddler to deal with. Also it was high summer, so I was a fat, sweaty beached whale - at least you've got the cooler weather coming.

Sorry to hear you're still working - the only thing that made it bearable for me was giving up work 8 weeks before the birth.

big hugs ((()))

Twinkie - please don't feel guilty. I'm nearly 39 weeks (yikes!) and hey, aren't getting envious looks from dp as I grunt when I move (when I can move), when I ache, rush off to the toilet, can't fit into clothes, feel tearful, face the prospect of birth etc etc - I mean, on the face of it, what's to enjoy?

We are all here and if you hate every damn minute of what's left, then let us know. It does't mean for one teeny moment that you love db any less. We know how you feel!!!!

Oh Twinkie you poor thing. Stop feeling guilty - there is no rule that says you have to enjoy pregnancy, and it doesn't reflect at all on what you will be like as a mother once it's over - but you know that.
If it helps, I found having a newborn a lot easier than friends who had enjoyed pregnancy did. The relief at being not like a beached whale anymore makes the sleepless nights, leaky boobs etc so much easier to deal with.

don't feel guilty. i threw up 24/7 for 6 months then went through the heavy tired bloated stage, I wanted dd to come almost as soon as i found out i was pregnant!
And despite this am trying for another

I hated being pregnant. Hated every bit of it. Big sympathetic hugs!

Can you give up work a bit earlier?

No got a huge solicitors bill to pay and going to court again before baby is born so will need to work as long as I can!!

Its not so much the work it is that I feel so bad!! I have such bad reflux that it actually makes me catch my breath and then I start gasping for air and then I start heaving and whilst this is happening you can guarantee that I pee myself a little so am having to wear pissy pads (don't laugh you old people!)!! I ache everywhere too - all of my joints and no matter how I sit I am uncomfortable adn I look like shit - oh I could go on and on - sorry and thoroughly miserbale with it all!!

I felt like this - its so exciting when you are pregnant with your 1st and then the second time it's not so exciting, no-one cares as much, you have another little person to run round after who seems to have endless energy, I seem to ache more - oh god I could go on....

however with labour round the corner I am now remembering how much it hurt and would like to stay pregnant for a bit longer...and am thinking how on earth am I going to cope with 2 - one is bad enough. Twinkie hang on because those 6 weeks are going to fly by and then you won't be pregnant and you'll be wishing you were!

No advice to give (apart from the health farm suggestion I made on my feeling low thread) but wanted you to know you described exactly how I felt when in the latter stages of pregnancy. So don't feel guilty, I am sure you and I can't be the only people to feel this way. You must take things as easy as you can within your circumstances to give your body a chance to build up some strength for the labour and to indulge yourself before the baby comes and your time is not your own.
6 weeks must seem a long time right now but in reality, it will soon be over.

Twinkie, I can't be the only one hoping that every twinge is actually going to be labour - and I'm at 37wks now. I'm sure you don't look like shit though - you just look like someone who's 34 wks pregnant (and probably much more stylishly so than me!). The reflux sounds terrible, and I think if you are really tired, taking a few days off sick would not be unjustified. If you want a joint moan, come and join us in the October thread!

Twinkie, to say I'm not finding this whole thing the most pleasurable thing in the world would be a huge understatement! I get home from work now and I can hardly move! I end up limping and hobbling round the house, and I've still got three and a half weeks to go! AHH! I don't feel nice or attractive or glowing. I feel a fat slob who dosen't seem to have the energy to do anything anymore. I'm sweaty and hot and slow and horrible! I really thought it would be lovely to be pregnant! But it's not! At least how it is to have a newborn (after DD) I'm completely terrified by the thought of labour and motherhood too ! Six weeks will zoom by now Twinkie, just think you've managed 32 (weeks of proper pregnancy that is!)!

Join the club Twinkie. As soon as I get to 36 weeks I am going to go for an early labour - pineapple, curry and even sex, I'll try the lot. I am big and uncomfortable all the time, I feel like I need to do an enormous poo (must be the baby's head), I am also incontinent and weed on the bathroom floor a bit yesterday . The joys of pregnancy. As well as bladder control, I am also losing my marbles - today in the communal shower at the swimming pool, I caught myself trying to express some milk, it has become such a habit to have a squeeze everytime I take my top off! I forgot where I was for a moment .

And I have 8 more weeks to go.

Ooohhhh hello everyone - feel a bit better today funnily enough - must have been the monday morning blues and reading all of your posts really helped me get things into perspective.

DP went out and bought yet more pillows for me alst night (I now have 8 just for me!!) and I had a better nights sleep although have back ache from sleeping bolt upright!! Got DD to bed nice and early and made myself boil in the bag cod in butter sauce mash and peas (my comfort food) so that made me happy and was quite balnd so did not irritate my gut.

Had lovely bath and then a huge poo (Soory TMI!!) which sort of took some of the pain away down there and then relaxed for a while before bed!!

Heard that one of the ladies at my NCT had her babay 5 weeks early (she wsn;t at the class on Saturday) - babay is fine but only 3lb and they have to keep him in so now I feel terribly lucky that I am still pregnant and have decided to lay off the curry and sex for another 4 weeks!!

Although I will still whinge about how shite I feel intermitantly on here if that ok!!

Thanks again though you all really did help me get things back on track and thnk about what is important - oh and i am working from home for the next few days so should eb able to rest a bit more!!