Looking for Support and Reassurance

[FitnessBaby]

Hi Everyone

I'm not going to lie I'm 5-6 weeks into my first pregnancy and I'm petrified! I'm sure I'm supposed to feel happy but I just feel scared!! Also I'm feeling sick all the time and can't stop being an emotional wreck!

Obviously we haven't told many people yet so thought I would look to you lovely people for reassurance!

Any help or kind words would be appreciated

you are allowed to feel the way you feel. It is perfectly natural. Doesn't help if you are feeling sick, and you've a load of extra hormones in the mix too.

Is there anything in particular you are fearful about?
(I'm a first timer too, now 25 weeks and a bit!)
It is strange at the start when you have this massive news and don't feel like you can tell people. I ended up telling a friend at 8 weeks after the first midwife appointment, which made it a bit easier to keep quiet after for a while!)
I would talk to your partner about your feelings too - they would hopefully help even if only by sharing.

Thank you for your reply. I guess I'm just scared of everything! Dealing with the changes in my body, coping with work. I have a very physical job so is already tough!!

My hubby has been amazing. I've always had anxiety so guess that doesn't help. I get what you mean about how you almost can't tell anything is there yet. There's just a lot to process I guess

sounds like its the pregnancy you are worrying about rather than the bit that comes after?

The physical changes are strange and take adjusting to and processing. I would just encourage you to just notice things as they happen - every pregnancy is different as people on here keep saying. I have been lucky really with mine and so far it's been fairly smooth sailing and can still do most things just as before - but if that's not you then don't beat yourself up, your body is doing so many things invisibly without you even knowing. As for work, do you have a decent and reasonable employer? They should make accommodations as things progress. (I know it is early days yet... if you struggle with sickness I think some people tell their boss just so they don't feel awkward about that!)

I'm planning on telling my boss so he doesn't think I'm just being lazy. I think you're right I just need to accept the changes and roll with them. It's just all so new!

Thanks for your kind messages

Make sure you're in a trade union so you're protected at work and have free legal recourse if you need it.

www.tuc.org.uk/join-union

More information on pregnancy discrimination here, hopefully you won't need it but good to know:

www.tuc.org.uk/resource/pregnancy-and-maternity-discrimination-enote

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