Still don't have the guts to tell my mum!

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I am now 20 weeks pregnant and still haven't told my family. My partners family all know. They're not too supportive. They don't really like me for some unknown reason, and I'm dreading telling my mum. She's one of those who wont just say "congrats" and leave it be. She's one to ask questions like "how are you going to afford another baby" "where are you going to live" etc. Etc. We already have 2 children, and money isn't too tight, though we could be doing with a bit more (couldn't everyone? Lol). But our landlady is a bit of a nightmare. But we are currently looking for somewhere else. We didn't plan this baby, as I didn't actually want anymore. But things happen. So I'm super nervous about telling my mum! How did you guys tell your mum/parents? Especially if you was a nervous wreck?!

Just tell her. Assuming you're an adult, it's your life and your choice. If she's got anything to say about finances, just say 'I haven't asked you for handouts so please mind your business.'

Hey I was 19 when I fell pregnant I'm currently 21! 2 kids at 20 you must have your hands full lol! My friend has 2 kids and she's my age and loves it. My mum was okay with it as I'd been with my partner for 3 years before hand so it wasn't like a one night stand thing. But his parents where a bit more unhappy with the situation. His dad cried his mum asked all the questions your mum would. But tbh as my pregnancy went along they came to terms with it and now they're amazing grandparents and love my little boy to its! Every baby is a blessing and I'm sure she will come around. She's your mum she's just trying to make sure your okay and make sure your doing the right then as you would for your kids. Good luck!

I told mine asap. I wasn't planning on telling her so early (wanted to wait til after the 12 week scan so it was more real and the probability of her telling me to have an abortion - a real fear, was less) but I was so stressed about telling her that it was spoiling my enjoyment of the pregnancy. I started by pointing out that I'm nearly 40 and had always wanted a child, so it was now or never.

She actually took it far better than expected. She's thrilled I used a sperm donor (she can continue to pretend to herself and everyone else I'm still a virgin!). She did find it difficult not telling anyone until after the scan (I did let her tell a couple of friends, but didn't want it widely known and I especially didn't want her telling very good friends of mine, just because she thought she should). She got there in the end, though, and was then peeved I put it on FB before she could tell everyone within a 100 mile vicinity!

If I were you I'd take the bull by the horns and just tell her. You never know, she might surprise you. And even if she doesn't she'll have to be told at some point, so why spend more time stressing about telling her?

Thank you guys! After reading your responses earlier, I decided to text her. And she took it surprisingly well! Really wasnt expecting her to respond the way she did! Massive weight off my chest! Now just to tell my employer lol! Xxx

Well done you and congratulations.X

Well done and congrats!! Something to be proud of x